Why You Keep Starting Over (And The Habit System That Actually Works) with Gretchen Rubin

Why You Keep Starting Over (And The Habit System That Actually Works)

If you keep starting over with your workouts, nutrition, or routines and you’re starting to think the problem is your motivation or discipline, this episode will completely change how you think about habits.

Because the truth is: willpower isn’t the problem. Most people are using a habit system that doesn’t match how they’re wired. And when that happens, even the best plan eventually falls apart.

In this episode of the Redefining Strength Podcast I sit down with Gretchen Rubin, one of the world’s leading experts on habits, happiness, and human nature and the New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Project, Better Than Before, and The Four Tendencies.

Together, we'll break down:

Why some people need accountability, some need freedom, some need clarity, and why forcing yourself into the wrong system keeps you stuck

The Four Tendencies framework (Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels) and how each type should build habits differently

Why identity can either support your goals or secretly sabotage them

The simple One-Minute Rule that can dramatically reduce mental clutter and build momentum

How to stop blaming yourself and finally build habits that actually stick

If you’ve ever said:
“I’m great for a few weeks and then I fall off.”
“I know what to do, I just can’t stay consistent.”
“I feel like I’m always starting over.”

This episode is for you.