Why We Wait for the Crisis

Change is something we all resist. It's uncomfortable, unknown, and goes against our basic human nature. In this episode, I explore why we tend to wait until our relationships are in total crisis before we’re willing to do the hard work of being vulnerable. Drawing on back-of-the-mind wisdom from Esther Perel, I explain why we have less incentive to change when things are good, but far less creativity to change when things are bad. This "aspirin vs. vitamin" approach to marriage keeps us reactive instead of proactive. To truly shift your relationship, you have to start with yourself and find a reason big enough to get you off the couch. It’s about being intentional with connection and choosing to be loving rather than just waiting to feel loved. As I often say, "If you want something different, you have to do something different." Feeling overwhelmed by menopause, and noticing it’s affecting your marriage too? If you’re serious about feeling steadier in your body and more connected in your relationship, take the next step with my Menopause Mini Course. It’s short, practical, and designed to help you move out of overwhelm and into clarity. Start today at sharonpope.com/menopause (https://sharonpope.com/menopause).