Why Peace Feels Boring (And Why You Are Addicted to Chaos)

You say you just want a peaceful life. You say you are tired of the drama. But be honest: The moment your life actually gets quiet, you start to panic.

In this episode of Sober Psychology, we are tackling Chaos Addiction. If you grew up in survival mode, peace doesn't feel safe—it feels suspicious. Your brain is literally addicted to the cortisol and adrenaline of a crisis.

I’m Michael, a psychologist in training, and today we are breaking down why you self-sabotage relationships, why healthy partners feel "boring" (The Slot Machine Effect), and why you keep running back to the burning building. We are looking at this through the lens of neuroscience and Biblical truth—from the Israelites missing their slavery in Egypt to the "Sarah Syndrome" of trying to force God's hand.

If you are ready to stop burning down your own house just to feel the heat, this episode is for you.

In this episode we cover:

• The Neuroscience: Why your amygdala interprets safety as "boredom."
• Relationships: The "Slot Machine Effect" (Intermittent Reinforcement) and why you confuse anxiety for chemistry.
• Identity Crisis: Who are you if you aren't fighting for your life?
• Biblical Truth: The story of Sarah and Hagar, and why impatience creates generational chaos.
• The Solution: How to practice "Exposure Therapy for Boredom."

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Timestamps:

• 0:00 - You Are a Liar (Why Peace Feels Suspicious)
• 1:00 - Intro/ Welcome
• 1:51 - The Cortisol Junkie (Neuroscience)
• 2:53 - Repetition Compulsion (Feud/ Re-enacting Trauma)
• 3:35 - The Slot Machine Effect (Intermittent Reinforcement/ Relationships)
• 5:03 - The Identity Crisis (Who Are You Without the Fight?)
• 5:57 - Theology is Slavery (Exodus/ Romanticizing the Past)
• 7:05 - The Sarah Syndrome (Impatience Creates Chaos)
• 7:58 - The Solution (Exposure Therapy/ Naming the Game)
• 8:54 - Conclusion (You Deserve a Boring Life)

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