Why Most Men Are Living Other People's Dreams (Time to Wake Up)

Most men are sleepwalking through lives designed by others - trapped in mediocre circles, chasing external validation, and wondering why success feels hollow. This conversation with Matt Bourque cuts through the noise with brutal honesty about what it really takes to build an intentional life.We explore why surrounding yourself with the right people isn't optional, how to audit your current circle without burning bridges, and why your health is the foundation everything else is built on. From breaking free of social media metrics to creating from abundance rather than scarcity, this is about becoming the man who knows where he's going.This isn't about perfection - it's about direction. It's about prioritizing yourself so you can show up fully for others. It's about choosing discomfort over mediocrity and building the life you actually want, not the one you think you should want.Connect with Matt:Instagram: @drivendadmethod 🔥 READY TO STOP DRIFTING? → Take The 7-Day Reset for High-Performing Men: https://www.stumurray.com/7-day-reset Seven questions that separate the men who change from the men who stay stuck. Most won't finish it.ABOUT STU MURRAY & BROTHRI help high-performing men break free from the performance prison that's left them successful on the outside but hollow within. This channel is your roadmap from isolation to brotherhood, from achievement to fulfillment, from doing to being.🔺Key Timestamps :00:01:59 – Why every man should celebrate fitness in his life00:06:27 – The danger and power of comparison in men’s circles00:10:23 – How to limit exposure to toxic friendships00:13:50 – Why joy is found in simplicity, not achievements00:18:40 – Retirement isn’t what you think: losing drive & purpose00:21:15 – The small habit that keeps friendships alive00:25:22 – Why grief and sadness also belong at the table00:30:09 – Anger as a shield for shame and insecurity00:43:24 – “Your vibe attracts your tribe” – owning your energy00:55:49 – Business is better (and more fun) with collaboration