Why Marriage Feels Hard + How to Break Free with Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Marriage is arguably the most sanctifying relationship on the planet. Just consider the following questions:

Why is it that we tend to think our spouse is out to get us?
Why do we assume the worst about him / her?
What causes us to get so defensive?
Why do we get so offensive in our reactions?
Are the offenses we carry worth it?

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, best-selling author of Love and Respect, joins us to talk about the lightbulb moments he discovered in 20 years of helping men and women stop living in their crazy cycle. What is the crazy cycle? Consider this: “Without love she reacts without respect. Without respect he reacts without love.”

But what’s more, Dr. Eggerichs discovered that “without love, defensively she reacts offensively without respect. And without respect, defensively he reacts offensively without love.”

In this episode, Dr. Eggerichs shares the way out of the cycle through principles like “80/20” and “Seeing God over your spouse’s shoulder.”

With many incredible convicting and encouraging insights, this is an episode we hope brings your marriage closer together.

Time Stamps:
0:00 Dr. Emerson Eggerichs joins the show
2:31 Where Love and Respect and the crazy cycle began
8:21 How to interpret the crazy cycle in your relationship
19:40 The ah-ha moment of 80/20 and the lens from which we view our spouse
27:08 Looking at God over the spouse of your shoulder
29:32 Your marriage within the Kingdom of God
34:45 Victimhood, offense, and finding freedom in Christ
44:44 Being offended by God and the power of a forgiving spirit
48:55 The 2 degree shift that can change your marriage
52:45 How to get your husband to pray with you

Show Notes:

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