Why I Apologise to My Kids. Even When I’m the Problem

Every dad fears passing something on to their kids. It could be a behaviour, a wound, a hesitation, a version of themselves they’ve spent years trying to outgrow.

For me? It’s hesitation. The fear of failing. The fear of leaping. The fear of trusting myself. And I refuse to let my boys inherit that.

This episode is about courage, ownership, apology… and the kind of leadership our kids actually learn from.

This week we talk:

What we fear our children will absorb from us

The emotional patterns we carry… and pass on

Why apologising isn’t weakness. It's authentic leadership

How to return to softness after anger

The danger of performance, protection and pressure in the home

Teaching kids courage through your example, not perfection

Why your recovery matters more than your reaction

This matters because :

Your kids won’t inherit your dreams, but they will inherit your fears, hesitations and emotional wiring unless you actively reshape it.

They don’t need a flawless dad. They need a human one.

A dad who apologises, who explains his emotions, who models courage and who shows them what recovery looks like after the storm.

Let's face it, We don’t pass on perfection. We pass on courage and courage starts with honesty.

This the dad they need to see. Human. Authentic and Humble.

This week do this:

Name the thing you fear they’ll inherit and try to make it right.

Apologise when you’re the problem.

Take ownership of you mistakes.

Explain your feelings at their level . Help them understand the man behind the mask.

Use negative emotions as teaching tools.

Anger, frustration, fear are all human emotions. They're not shameful but opportunities to grow. Show recovery.

Try to let them in when you're resetting after a tough day. Let them see what it takes to lead when under pressure.

Ask daily: “Am I teaching them to leap… or hesitate?”

Comment below: What behaviour or wound are you most afraid your kids will inherit and what are you doing about it?

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