When Your Daughter Holds Back — How to Support Her Without Pushing

Welcome to Raising Confident Girls. In this episode, Melissa Jones unpacks a moment many parents recognize but often misunderstand—when a daughter goes quiet, holds back, or struggles to find her words. Melissa explains why this behavior is less about a lack of confidence and more about underlying insecurity, and how well-meaning encouragement can sometimes feel like pressure instead of support.

Through a compassionate, practical lens, Melissa shares how parents can create space for their daughters to express themselves without rushing, rescuing, or filling the silence. She introduces the idea of mapping confidence rather than measuring it, and reminds parents that confidence grows when girls feel trusted, heard, and emotionally safe. Just as importantly, she invites parents to notice and manage their own discomfort during these pauses—because calm connection is more powerful than quick reassurance.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why holding back is often a sign of insecurity, not defiance or disinterest
• How encouragement driven by parental anxiety can unintentionally feel like pressure
• What it means to map confidence instead of measuring or testing it
• Why normalizing pauses helps girls build emotional safety
• How allowing girls to speak without interruption strengthens trust
• The role of parental calm in supporting emotional growth

Join Melissa for this grounding and insightful conversation that will help you support your daughter’s voice—by slowing down, listening deeply, and creating the kind of space where confidence can grow naturally.

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