What to Do If a Peer Mentions Suicide

Not every crisis looks like a breakdown. Learn how to spot subtle signs someone’s struggling, and how to respond without overreacting or brushing it off.

You’re sitting in the car after a long shift when a coworker quietly says, “I don’t know how much longer I can do this. Sometimes I wonder if everyone would be better off without me.”

Your heart drops. Are they just venting… or are they really thinking about ending their life?

This is one of the most critical moments you’ll face as a peer supporter or as a trusted coworker. You don’t want to overreact, but you also can’t ignore what you just heard.

In this episode, we’ll break down exactly what to do when a peer mentions suicide, so you’re not stuck guessing or hoping you say the right thing.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU’LL LEARN:

• The most important warning signs and risk factors for suicide in high-stress professions
• How to ask directly about suicide using clear, honest language (without making things worse)
• How to persuade a peer to stay safe and accept help when they feel like giving up
• Practical referral options and how to make a “warm handoff” so they’re not left alone in the process

You don’t have to be a clinician to save a life. You just need to notice, ask the hard question, and care enough to stay with them while you connect them to help.

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Houston Area CISM GRIN Training

This 3-day course, hosted by the Atascocita Fire Department, will teach you how to support your peers through effective communication, emotional resilience, and understanding the psychological impact of crises. Register for this training. https://stresscaredoc.com/atascocita-grin Dates: January 6-8, 2026 Times: 8:30 AM - 5:00 PM each day Location: Atascocita Fire Admin Building