What is Surrender in Betrayal Trauma Healing? Healing in Christ's Light, Part 3

Surrender is one of the most misunderstood concepts in healing, especially after betrayal trauma. For many women, the word itself can feel painful, unsafe, or even triggering. It can sound like giving up, minimizing harm, or accepting what should never have happened.

In this episode, we slow surrender way down.

This conversation explores what surrender actually means in the context of betrayal trauma and healing in Christ’s light. Not as passive acceptance or forced forgiveness, but as a gradual, grounded process of releasing what was never yours to carry in the first place.

We talk about surrender through multiple lenses. Faith, higher power, and the 12-step framework, while always coming back to what surrender looks like in real, everyday life for women whose trust has been shattered.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why surrender often feels painful and threatening after betrayal
• Making space for different concepts of a higher power without pressure or perfection
• What surrender means in the 12 steps, in practical, lived terms
• How surrender can coexist with boundaries, truth, and discernment
• How surrender can become a pathway back to peace, clarity, and self-connection

This episode is for women who are exhausted from holding everything together, from trying to manage outcomes, and from carrying responsibility that was never theirs. Surrender here is not about shrinking or silencing yourself. It is about softening your grip on what you cannot control so you can come back home to yourself.

You don’t have to understand surrender all at once. You don’t have to do it perfectly. And you don’t have to force it before you’re ready.

This episode offers gentle perspective, grounded truth, and permission to explore surrender at your own pace.

🌟 Meet the Author: Jeni Brockbank

Jeni Brockbank lives in northern Utah with her six children, where she works as a betrayal trauma coach and podcaster. She finds joy in applying the gospel of Jesus Christ to real-life challenges, floating on lazy rivers, snuggling her kids, and long lunches with good friends. She loves the color red as a reminder of her individual worth to her Heavenly Father. Jeni is also the founder of Her Wings Unfold, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting survivors of domestic violence, betrayal, and abuse.

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