What if the very patterns holding you back are trying to protect you?

In this conversation we explore how Internal Family Systems or IFS coaching and the practice of holding space can help you deepen your relationship with yourself, so you are more ready to discover your superpower, unlock your potential, and create your impact in the world.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, conflicted, or unsure why certain patterns, inner critics, or emotional reactions keep showing up, this conversation offers a powerful reframe. IFS coaching helps purpose-driven people…
➡️develop more self-leadership
➡️create emotional regulation, and
➡️increase compassion for the parts of themselves that get in the way
…without trying to “fix” them.

For those on the path to discover your superpower, unlock your potential, and create your impact, other guests have shared that improving your understanding of and relationship with yourself is big accelerator.

And today’s guest, Janet Livingstone, helps others develop that deeper understanding of themselves.

Janet is an IFS-informed executive coach, an organizational development consultant, and facilitator.

And in this conversation, she gives one of the best descriptions of what IFS is, and the difference between using IFS in therapy and in coaching.

Her superpower is helping others heal, and she shares her experiences as an IFS coach and a trained integration facilitator for clients who have gone on guided psychedelic journeys and want help in making sense of the new neural pathways they’ve created.

In this episode, Janet answers the following questions:
➡️ What is Internal Family Systems or IFS?
➡️ What is IFS Coaching?
➡️ What is psychedelic journey integration?
➡️ What is IFS Team Coaching?

My favorite quote from the episode:
“It is a spiritual experience to witness someone else’s healing.”

Resources mentioned in the episode:
➡️ Janet’s Website
➡️ Janet’s LinkedIn

Chapters
0:00 Intro & Welcome
2:36 What is Internal Family Systems or IFS Coaching?
6:14 Understanding Parts: Inner Critics, Protectors, and Exiles
12:35 IFS Coaching vs Internal Family Systems Therapy: What’s the Difference?
17:01 How IFS Helps Leaders and Coaches Hold Space
25:50 Psychedelic Integration and Emotional Healing
30:29 Healing PTSD, Depression, and Anxiety: What the Research Says
33:26 What Inspired Janet’s Superpower of Helping Others Heal
37:57 What Janet Knows To Be True About Helping Others Heal
39:45 Bringing IFS Coaching Into Teams and Organizations

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is an invitation to be inspired to discover your superpower, unlock your potential, and create your impact in the world.

This podcast is for people leaders, coaches, org development practitioners and anyone who is working on their leadership capabilities and personal growth, through coaching or not, in their pursuit of unlocking and living into their possibilities.

For more info about the podcast or to check out more episodes, go to:
https://whatdoyouknowtobetrue.com/episodes

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

Keywords
#IFSCoaching #psychedelicintegration #holdingspace #internalfamilysystems #ifs #WhatisInternalFamilySystems #WhatisIFS #WhatisIntegration #WhatisPsychedelicIntegration #discoveryoursuperpower #unlockyourpotential #CreateYourImpact

***This conversation is with Ayurvedic Doctor and Corporate Wellness Expert, Sweta Vikram, and it's about leadership effectiveness and how to increase impact as a leader. Sweta says the path to effective leadership is through finding balance, exploring our true self, and showing up with more kindness. ***

What if the most powerful leadership skill isn't about what you accomplish, but about how you make others feel?

In this episode, Ayurvedic doctor and corporate wellness expert Sweta Vikram reveals why making people feel seen isn't just a nice-to-have: it's essential for effective leadership, team performance, and organizational health.

Drawing from 5,000 years of Ayurvedic wisdom, Sweta shares how self-awareness and presence can transform leadership from performative to profound.

For leaders drowning in chaos and responsibility, Sweta offers a lifeline: "Burnout happens in chaos, healing happens in routines." She explains how high performers and executives can prevent burnout by understanding their natural rhythms and creating sustainable practices that honor both ambition and wellbeing.

But here's the paradox: you can't make others feel seen if you don't see yourself first. "Once we get to know ourselves, the Jekyll and the Hyde and everything in between, we are just kinder to everybody else," Sweta explains. This episode challenges the traditional leadership playbook that prioritizes doing over being, competition over compassion, and performance over presence.

In this conversation, you'll discover:
➡️ Why "healing begins when people start to feel visible" and what this means for your team
➡️ How to recognize signs of imbalance in yourself and your leadership style
➡️ The difference between being kind and being nice—and why it matters
➡️ Practical ways to pause, reflect, and show up more authentically as a leader
➡️ How ancient Ayurvedic principles apply to modern workplace challenges

Whether you're a proven executive, an emerging leader, or a coach supporting others, this conversation offers a refreshing perspective on what truly makes leadership sustainable and impactful.

Subscribe to What Do You Know To Be True? for more conversations that unlock your leadership potential.

In this episode, Sweta answers the following questions:
➡️What is Ayurveda?
➡️How to be more valuable as a leader?
➡️How to make people feel seen?
➡️How to be more mindful as a leader?

Resources mentioned in the episode:
➡️Sweta’s Website: https://www.swetavikram.com/
➡️Sweta’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/swetavikram
➡️Sweta’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swetavikram

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is a series of conversations with ordinary people about their extraordinary talent and the meaningful impact it has on others. The invitation is to be inspired to discover your superpower, unlock your potential and possibilities, and make meaningful impact in the world.

This podcast is for people leaders, coaches, org development practitioners and anyone who is working on their leadership capabilities and personal growth, through coaching or not, in their pursuit of unlocking and living into their possibilities.

For more info about the podcast or to check out more episodes, go to: https://whatdoyouknowtobetrue.com

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

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How do you become more present as a leader and hold space for what’s possible in the moment?

In this episode of What Do You Know To Be True?, executive coach and Coaches Rising co-founder Joel Monk shares how leadership presence, awareness, and tending to what’s emerging can unlock deeper impact in coaching and leadership conversations.

This conversation is especially relevant for:
➡️People leaders who want to be more present and less reactive
➡️Leadership coaches learning how to hold deeper space
➡️OD professionals focused on human-centered leadership
➡️Anyone exploring mindful leadership and presence

As an artist, a DJ, an Executive Coach, and Co-Founder of the coach training organization, Coaches Rising, those moments and the possibilities that emerge from them have been so important in Joel’s life.

In this conversation, Joel shares with us...
➡️how he shows up and creates those moments with his clients, his colleagues, and the important people in his life, so he can fully experience what emerges next.
➡️how those moments are more available to us if we bring our awareness to them.
➡️that it's unrealistic to expect that every moment is a magical moment - so we need to let go of expectations (and unironically, that's when the magic can help)

As a demonstration of Joel’s curiosity and his superpower of tending to the emergent, Joel gets me to share some key things from hosting the What Do You Know To Be True? podcast about how we discover our superpowers, unlock our potential, and make meaningful impact in our communities:
➡️the common themes of people using their superpowers
➡️the path that 9/10 times guests develop their superpowers
➡️the building blocks of potential

Joel is deeply thoughtful and present in this conversation, and it’s easy to see his superpower of tending to the emergent in action.

In this episode, Joel answers the following questions:
➡️How to be more aware of what's possible?
➡️How to be more emotionally present?
➡️Why do I struggle to be present?
➡️How to be more mindful?

Resources mentioned in the episode:
➡️Joel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joel-monk-33952613/
➡️Coaches Rising: https://www.coachesrising.com/

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is an invitation to be inspired to discover your superpower, unlock your potential and possibilities, and make meaningful impact in the world.

This podcast is for people leaders, coaches, org development practitioners, and anyone who works with people who want to be inspired to discover their superpower, unlock their possibilities, and make meaningful impact in the world.

For more info about the podcast or to check out more episodes, go to: https://whatdoyouknowtobetrue.com/

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

Keywords
#leadershippresence #holdspace #mindfulleadership #Howtobemorepresentasaleader #Holdingspaceinconversations #Beingpresentforpossibilities

In this conversation, Dr. Lalith Wijedoru talks about discovering his superpower by speaking his uncomfortable truths through storytelling, which allowed him to unlock his potential and possibilities for creating space for others to share their stories.

And while speaking one’s uncomfortable truths has its perils, Lalith makes meaningful impact in the organizations and communities he’s involved with, because that is how others heal, grow, and deepen relationships, it’s also how he continues to grow and create deeper social connections.

Lalith discovered his superpower by speaking his own uncomfortable truths, so he’s very aware of what is required and what may happen when one shares their uncomfortable truths.

In the conversation, Lalith goes on to share…
➡️ What it takes to tell an uncomfortable truth
➡️ What resistance to expect when telling an uncomfortable truth
➡️ Why the rewards of telling your comfortable truth are better than staying silent

Lalith’s first career was as Dr. Wijedoru, an emergency department pediatric doctor, because he wanted to provide the care and safeguarding of children that he did not receive as a child.

Now he’s in his second career as a well-being consultant, a storyteller, and founder of Behind Your Mask, an organization that creates the spaces and skills for speaking uncomfortable truths through storytelling.

In this episode, Lalith answers the following questions:
➡️ What are uncomfortable truths?
➡️ How to tell someone an uncomfortable truth?
➡️ How to speak your truth?
➡️ How to tell stories about your past?

My favorite quote from the episode: “Truth can disrupt and truth can destroy, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.”

When not telling an uncomfortable truth protects something that causes and prolongs harm, it’s not worth protecting. In many relationships and families there are unspoken truths where we’ve been told it’s safer not tell the truth. In terms of actual healing, that’s bullshit. It only amplifies and prolongs the hurt.

If you are in need of talking to someone, there are organizations available to help.
ℹ️ In the US, for Mental Health Crises And Suicide Prevention: Dial 9-8-8

ℹ️ In the UK, for Mental Health Crises And Suicide Prevention: Dial 1-1-1

🌈 If you are an LGBTQ+ young person in need of support, you can reach out to The Trevor Project crisis counselors, available 24/7,
💜 https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/
🧡 Text “START” to 678-678
💛 Call at 1-866-488-7386

ℹ️ To find a therapist or counseling, you can try BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/

Resources mentioned in the episode:
- Lalith’s Company, Behind Your Mask
- Lalith’s LinkedIn

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is a series of conversations where I speak with interesting people about their special talent or superhero power and the meaningful impact it has on others. The intention is to learn more about their experience with their superhero power, so that we can learn something about the special talent in each of us which allows us to connect more deeply with our purpose and achieve our potential.

For more info about the podcast or to check out more episodes, go to: https://www.youtube.com/@WDYKTBT?sub_confirmation=1

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

Keywords
#Discover Your Superpower #Unlock Your Potential #Make Meaningful Impact

This is a conversation with Suzanne Weller and how she discovered her superpower of being a connector and a community builder, to unlock her possibilities, and the surprising truth of what allows her to make meaningful impact with the colleagues and communities she engages.

When it comes to being a connector and a community builder, can you think of a capability more important than being able to read other people and read a room?

For Suzanne Weller, there’s something she’s learned to be even more important than reading other people which has helped her grow her superpower and her impact.

As a leadership coach, a public speaker, a storyteller, a founder of her own consulting firm, and host of The Courage Effect podcast, she has a lot of experience being able to read people and rooms.

But that is not the most valuable skill she’s learned as a connector and a community builder.

In this conversation, we dive into…
➡️what being a connector and community builder does for Suzanne
➡️the costs of being a connector and a community builder
➡️if you are saying ‘yes’ to one thing, what are you saying ‘no’ to?
➡️what it takes to be a better team mate and better community member.

*** Don't miss another episode with amazing guests l- subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/@WDYKTBT?sub_confirmation=1 ***

In this episode, Suzanne answers the following questions:
➡️How do I become a connector?
➡️What makes someone a good connector?
➡️How do I build a community?
➡️How to build community when you feel isolated?

My favorite quote from the episode: “It’s the trade-off idea. If you say ‘no,’ then you get to say ‘yes’ to something else. And if I say ‘yes’ to this, I have to say ‘no’ to something else.”

Suzanne is speaking to the need to find a balance in commitments and agreements, and how easy it is as an extrovert, a connector, and a community-builder to over-extend oneself. Even if it’s a superpower, operating out of balance is the fast lane to burnout.

Resources mentioned in the episode:
▶️Suzanne’s company Weller Collaboration
▶️Suzanne’s LinkedIn
▶️Podcast: The Courage Effect
▶️Book: “The Lion Women of Tehran" by Marjan Kamali,

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is a series of conversations where I speak with interesting people about their special talent or superhero power and the meaningful impact it has on others. The intention is to learn more about their experience with their superhero power, so that we can learn something about the special talent in each of us which allows us to connect more deeply with our purpose and achieve our potential.

For more info about the podcast or to check out more episodes, go to:
https://www.youtube.com/@WDYKTBT?sub_confirmation=1

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

Keywords
#DiscoverYourSuperpower #UnlockYourPotential #UnlockYourPossibilities #MakeMeaningfulImpact

This is a conversation with Danielle Letayf, and how she discovered her superpower to help other develop their personal brand and have the courage to unlock their potential and rewrite the stories they tell so they can make meaningful impact in their communities.

As people leaders, coaches and talent professionals, many of us help others tell their story. We might even get involved in helping them rewrite their stories.

Today’s guest Danielle Letayf is a pro at this.

Danielle is the founder of Badassery, a podcast guest agency. Not only is she helping her clients tell their stories on podcasts around the world, she rolls her sleeves up and gets into the mix with her clients to rewrite their own stories.

And while her clients need to adapt and embrace their new stores, adaptability is also part of Danielle’s secret sauce in how she approaches each individual she works with.

Danielle shares three key lessons in this conversation for the process of developing your personal brand:
1️⃣A willingness to go into uncomfortable places
2️⃣The courage to do the hard work
3️⃣It will be a grind

As you can imagine, if you were getting up on stage or about to be interviewed on a podcast, you might have a little imposter syndrome.

If you’re lucky enough to know Danielle, she’d likely share her surprising attitude towards Imposter Syndrome, which she shares in this conversation too.

In this episode, Danielle answers the following questions:
➡️What does rewriting your story mean?
➡️How do you rewrite your own story?
➡️How do you develop your personal brand?
➡️ Who can help me develop my personal brand?

My favorite quote from the episode: “A badass is not someone who is complete, but rather someone who is willing to grow even when they now it will hurt.”

If this quote feels similar to the Teddy Roosevelt “man in the arena” quote, it should. Not because Danielle lifted it, but because they are both talking about the courage it takes to be vulnerable especially because it will hurt in the middle.

Resources mentioned in the episode:
➡️Danielle’s company: Badassery
➡️Danielle’s LinkedIn

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is a series of conversations where I speak with interesting people about their special talent or superhero power and the meaningful impact it has on others. The intention is to learn more about their experience with their superhero power, so that we can learn something about the special talent in each of us which allows us to connect more deeply with our purpose and achieve our potential.

For more info about the podcast or to check out more episodes, go to: https://whatdoyouknowtobetrue.com/

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

Keywords
#discoveryoursuperpower #unlockyourpotential #unlockyourpossibilities #MakeMeaningfulImpact

This is a conversation with author and coach, Jules Kuroda, where she shares how she discovered her superpower of helping others find their innate nature so that they can unlock their potential and possibilities, and make even more meaningful impact in the world.

The path to our possible selves requires a deepening connection and understanding of our innate nature, and in several conversations, guests have shared that their journeys with their extraordinary talent have been accelerated when they got connected with their innate wisdom.

Jules is a coach, an author, and a guide for those who want to journey into the cave and through the shadows.

And she shares the importance of connecting with our innate self so that we can be the intentional designers of our lives.

When talking about our innate creativity that we are born with, Jules goes into the danger of not connecting with that part of our innate self.

Three big take aways from the conversation:
1️⃣The Courage to Getting Out of Our INNER Comfort Zone
We’ve heard that our growth is just on the other side of our comfort zone. Jules lays out that it’s our liberation that’s just outside of the comfort zone around our true self.

Not giving ourselves the permission to discover our true innate nature creates a blocker for increasing our experiences of joy. While it can be uncomfortable to go deep, lacking joy and understanding of who we are also has negative consequences.

2️⃣ Authenticity for Yourself
In this journey to discover our inner nature, we have the opportunity to get authentic with ourselves, but that doesn’t mean we need to be fully authentic and exposed with everyone we meet.

3️⃣Your Innate Self is Very Human (of course it is!)
What do all humans want?

Besides tacos, all humans want to be seen, recognized, and loved, and your innate self is no different. (Yes, I’ll say it, your innate self wants tacos too.)

Denying that inner journey is denying your true self to be seen, recognized, and loved. If you wouldn’t do that to a friend or loved one, why would you do that to yourself.

In this episode, Jules answers the following questions:
➡️What is the meaning of innate self?
➡️What is the true self?
➡️How does one discover their true self?
➡️What does true self mean?

Resources mentioned in the episode:
- Jules’ website: https://www.n8self.com/
- “The N8 Self” Book: https://a.co/d/5dVdjvk
- Jules’ Instagram: @N8Coach

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.
"What Do You Know To Be True?" is a series of conversations where I speak with interesting people about their special talent or superhero power and the meaningful impact it has on others. The intention is to learn more about their experience with their superhero power, so that we can learn something about the special talent in each of us which allows us to connect more deeply with our purpose and achieve our potential.

For more info about the podcast or to check out more episodes, go to: https://www.youtube.com/@WDYKTBT?sub_confirmation=1

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

Keywords
#discoveryoursuperpower #UnlockYourPotential #UnlockYourPossibilities #MakeMeaningfulImpact

David Hutchens shares how he discovered his superpower of storytelling to help leaders unlock their potential and possibilities with their teams. David shares the why and how stories connect us, reveals and amplifies our humanity, help drive transformative change in organizations, and enables us to make meaningful impact in the world.

The first secret David shares: While storytelling is a superpower we all innately possess, and yet most of us think we suck at it, you’re actually already pretty good at it. In fact, you’re wired for it.

And yet, in this conversation, he shares the one thing that even he needs again and again to be effective at it.

David is an author and CEO of The Storytelling Leader, and he joins us to share his experiences with his superpower, “Helping people awaken the more human parts of themselves.”

David wants us to know that stories are not just for retelling what happened. Stories are the beginning of something bigger. Stories can change the world, in fact, they always have.

While sharing the practical guidance he gives leaders, he is quick to point out that storytelling should not just be the domain of the top leader. All leaders at all levels of the organization can use storytelling to align, inspire, and motivate.

David shares that storytelling holds the awesome power of connection, meaning making, and transformation. Stories can connect us emotionally and inspire us. And when stories do that, it’s magnetic.

In this episode, David answers the following questions:
➡️ What is the secret to great storytelling?
➡️ What is the role of storytelling in transformative change?
➡️ What do leaders need to become great storytellers?
➡️ What is the impact of storytelling on culture?

Favorite quotes from the episode:

“Stories are the language of taking dismembered systems, remembering them, and making them whole.” David Hutchens

"Love is the only emotion that expands the intelligence of the system"
Humberto Maturana, Chilean Bioethicist, in "The Biology of Business:
Love Expands Intelligence"

“Stories connect us to the organization and bring us back to ourselves.” David Hutchens on the power of storytelling in times of change and transformation.

Music in this episode by Ian Kastner.

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is a series of conversations where I speak with interesting people about their special talent or superhero power and the meaningful impact it has on others. The intention is to learn more about their experience with their superhero power, so that we can learn something about the special talent in each of us which allows us to connect more deeply with our purpose and achieve our potential.

For more info about the podcast or to check out more episodes, go to: https://whatdoyouknowtobetrue.com

"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/

Keywords
#DiscoverYourSuperpower #UnlockYourPotential #UnlockYourPossibilities #MakeMeaningfulImpact