Is your marriage stuck in survival mode as you crawl toward the end of the year? In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, we walk through our own year-end marriage reset and the 3 questions that helped us rebuild emotional safety and intimacy. This is for married entrepreneurs and busy parents who feel like they’re always bracing for impact and want to feel connected again.

What You’ll Learn / Highlights

• The simple 3-question framework: what to let go of, what to rework, and what to invest in in your marriage for 2026.

• How Kendra went from walking on eggshells to feeling safer sharing how she really feels.

• Why Ryan’s instinct to “do more” was actually hurting intimacy—and what changed when he focused on equanimity and emotional safety instead.

• The real difference between coexisting and co-creating your marriage (and how to tell which one you’re in).

• A practical end-of-year exercise you can do with your spouse to talk about what’s working, what’s not, and course corrections—without it turning into a fight.

• How to redefine slowing down as “letting the miracles catch up to you,” especially for high-achieving, hustle-mode couples.

• Why counting your wins in marriage first changes the energy before you talk about problems or vision-casting for 2026.

Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/

Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:

Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/

Most couples are fighting about money, stress, and parenting—without ever naming the real problem: withholding. In this episode of Weaponized Marriage, we unpack what happens when one spouse hides business or financial stress “to protect the home,” and what honest, soul-feeding communication actually looks like.If you’ve ever felt the energy shift in your home but couldn’t put your finger on why, this one’s for you.

What You’ll Learn / Highlights

• How to know which stresses to share with your spouse and which details you can leave at the office.

• A simple phrase that tells your partner, “I just need you to listen, not fix,” and why it changes the whole conversation.

• The hidden cost of withholding financial reality and why secrecy around money quietly erodes trust and intimacy.

• How men and women experience money as energy differently (masculine “logistics” vs feminine “flow”).

• The difference between feeding shame vs feeding the soul in your marriage—and specific examples of each.

• Why your spouse will create worst-case stories in their mind when you withhold, and how to stop that spiral.

• A simple “talk to your spouse like the plant” analogy you can use with each other and your kids starting today.

Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/

Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:

Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/

If your marriage feels tense, distant, or sexless, emotional safety is almost always at the root. In this episode, we break down exactly what “emotional safety in marriage” actually means and how to build it using a simple 4-part framework. This is for couples (especially men) who are tired of reacting, fixing, and shutting down—and want real connection again.

What You’ll Learn / Episode Highlights

• The real definition of emotional safety in marriage (not just “listening more”)

• Why so many men default to fix-it mode—and how it destroys trust and intimacy

• How grief, old stories, and “subconscious spill” show up as emotional overwhelm in your relationship

• The 4 A’s Framework (attention, appreciation, affection, acceptance) and how to use it in real conversations

• The hidden link between emotional safety and a sexless marriage (and why toys, trips, and date nights don’t solve it)

• How avoidant and reactive patterns keep you stuck in the same fight on repeat

• Why doing your own individual work + couples work is non-negotiable for a purposeful marriage

Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/

Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:

Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/

Are you thriving in your marriage, or just surviving it? In this deeply personal and powerful episode of Weaponized Marriage, Kendra and Dr. Ryan return from a transformative plant medicine retreat with raw revelations and a bold new framework for intentional partnership. They dive into the difference between coexisting and co-creating in marriage, and what it really takes to build a relationship that lasts.

Kendra opens up about the emotional turbulence leading up to the retreat, including her fear of sharing hard truths with Dr. Ryan. What unfolds is a brutally honest conversation about safety, emotional, physical, and financial, and how couples can begin to rebuild trust in places where silence once lived. Together, they unpack how unresolved stories from childhood and unspoken expectations in adulthood can quietly sabotage even the strongest of relationships.

The highlight of the episode is their four-legged “Purposeful Marriage” framework, Producer, Protector, Parenting, and Personal, that offers couples a way to assess the stability of their marriage and grow with intention. It’s not just about money or sex; it’s about building something sacred, together.

Key Takeaways:

How emotional safety is just as critical as physical safety in a marriage

Why men need to learn when to pick up the sword, and when to lay it down

What to do when old wounds hijack your current reactions

The power of the “Purposeful Marriage Table” and its four supporting legs

How plant medicine helped them uncover hidden truths and step into healing

"If you're not growing, you're staying stagnant, and you're dying." – Kendra Hewitt

Draw your own Purposeful Marriage Table, identify your strong legs and the ones that need support. Then share this episode with your spouse or a couple you care about. Subscribe for biweekly truth-telling conversations that cut deep and call you higher.

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Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website

Is your marriage surrounded by friendships that strengthen it, or slowly drain it? In today’s episode, we unpack an experience that challenged us to redefine what community really means for our marriage. We’re fresh off a weekend trip to Charleston, SC, where we attended the Wives Meeting of the Chiropractic Knights of the Round Table, a powerful, invite-only brotherhood rooted in faith, values, and purpose. And this time, something extraordinary happened: Dr. Ryan was officially knighted.

What started as a curiosity about a mysterious “men’s group” turned into a weekend that left us both reflecting deeply on the importance of intentional friendships, not just individually, but as a couple. From meaningful conversations with women walking the same path, to the symbolism of knighthood and a literal engraved sword, we realized how rare and essential it is to be surrounded by people who elevate your standards, challenge your values, and inspire you to lead with love.

Together, we explore the surprising dynamics of building couple friendships, the unspoken expectations we carry into marriage, and why so many of us are starved for deep, value-driven community.

Takeaways:

True community is built on commitment, values, and intentionality, not convenience.

Your marriage reflects the influence of your closest relationships.

Friendships in adulthood often default to proximity over purpose, and that can cost us.

Couples need shared friendships that fuel growth, not just social plans.

Regular, value-aligned gatherings can re-anchor your marriage in seasons of busyness.

“This isn’t just a group that meets for sh*ts and giggles, it’s about legacy, alignment, and lifting each other higher.” - Kendra Hewitt

If this episode challenged or inspired you, hit “Follow” so you never miss a conversation that helps you fight for your marriage. Share it with a couple you admire, or journal together: Who are the five people influencing our marriage the most right now?

Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links:

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Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website

What if the secret to transforming your marriage isn’t getting more, but giving more? What if the biggest shift you need isn’t in your spouse... but in you?

In this episode of Weaponized Marriage, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt reflect on the moments shared during the memorial service for Charlie Kirk, especially through the lens of Erica Kirk’s breathtaking eulogy. Whether you knew Charlie or not, this episode unpacks timeless truths about the sacred covenant of marriage, the hard and holy act of forgiveness, and the daily choice to live in service of each other.

Kendra shares how one line from Erica, “How can I serve you better?”, stopped her in her tracks and became a call to action in her own marriage and family. Dr. Ryan brings insight on the masculine longing for peace, respect, and shared vision at home. Together, they discuss how forgiveness, when embraced fully, becomes a gateway to freedom, not just for your marriage, but your soul.

Whether you’re walking through a tough season, or just hungry for deeper connection, this episode calls you back to the heart of God’s design for marriage.

Key Takeaways:

True transformation in marriage begins with a shift from “me” to “we.”

Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event, it’s a continual act of surrender and healing.

Creating a peaceful, welcoming home can radically change your family’s dynamic.

Small intentional shifts (like how you wake your kids) can ripple into big emotional changes.

A shared mission or vision gives couples purpose beyond the daily grind.

“If you're too busy washing feet, you don't have time to throw stones.”

Take a moment today to ask your spouse one simple but powerful question: How can I serve you better? Then, share this episode with a friend or couple who needs that reminder too. And don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss a conversation that could change your marriage forever.

Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/

Learn more about Dr. Ryan Hewitt by visiting the following links:
Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/

Are you building a life together, or just surviving the day-to-day? In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, we wrestle with a question that hit us hard after witnessing Erica Kirk speak just days after the tragic loss of her husband, Turning Point USA’s chief operating officer. Her strength, faith, and clarity of purpose left us both shaken and inspired. It led us to ask: If something happened to your spouse tomorrow, would you know how to carry their mission forward?

We start off with a conversation about parenting struggles, the pressure to keep up with other families, and why a simple paint-by-number moment ended up revealing something much deeper about creating connection, not consuming stuff. But then the heart of this episode unfolds as we reflect on the unexpected gift of hearing a widow declare that her husband’s mission will not only continue, it will grow stronger.

This episode is a wake-up call: to start talking about what really matters. We dig into the importance of having a mission for your marriage, for your family, and for your own life, and what to do if you're not sure what that is yet.

Key Takeaways:

Your marriage needs a mission as much as your business does.

Start asking: What do I stand for? What do we stand for?

Consuming isn’t the goal, creating is.

Your kids don’t need more activities, they need more connection.

You can’t wait for tragedy to figure out what really matters.

“Does your message match your mission? Could your spouse stand on a stage and declare what you stood for?” - Kendra Hewitt

Challenge this week: Sit down with your spouse and ask: What do we want to create in 3, 5, and 10 years? Then, subscribe, share this episode, and start having the conversations that truly matter.

Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links:

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Ever feel like you're doing everything, and no one even notices? This week on The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Dr. Ryan peel back the layers on a topic that’s simmering beneath the surface in many homes: invisible labor. From managing kids’ schedules to carrying the emotional weight of the family, Kendra opens up about the quiet, constant responsibilities that so many women shoulder, and how it’s been silently impacting her relationship with Dr. Ryan.

This conversation dives into how unspoken expectations, mental overload, and mismatched communication styles can lead to bitterness, resentment, and disconnection, both in and out of the bedroom. Inspired by a podcast featuring Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Kendra introduces a powerful Venn diagram of “mental load,” breaking it down into personal, immediate family, and extended family responsibilities. The couple shares their personal journey navigating these challenges, from perfectionism and mom guilt to rejection and the pain of not feeling supported.

Dr. Ryan offers his perspective as a husband who often felt shut out and rejected, and how recognizing his role in the cycle helped them break free. They reflect on what it took to rebuild their intimacy, trust, and teamwork through honest communication and shared responsibility.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What invisible labor really is, and why it’s more than just chores

How resentment builds when mental load isn’t shared

Why asking for help is so hard (especially for women)

How tone and timing can change the outcome of difficult conversations

The power of truth and ownership in rebuilding connection

“When you tell the truth, even if it’s messy, you set your marriage free to evolve.” - Kendra Hewitt

If this episode hit home, share it with your spouse or a friend, and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss these real, raw conversations.

Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links:

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Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website