Want a Soulmate or a Bedmate? Don't Waste Your Best Years, Or You'll End Up In Tears

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Too many relationships drift for years without a decision, stealing time and muddying expectations. We pull the curtain back on why “we’ll see” is the most expensive phrase in dating and replace it with a simple, brave framework that keeps your future intact. If you want marriage, you need more than chemistry—you need clarity, standards, and a shared pace.

We start by drawing a clean line between two goals: dating for fun versus dating for marriage. When you’re honest about the goal, your bar changes. You stop confusing a good time with a good partner. We introduce the D‑E‑W method—dating, engagement, wedding—as a practical way to avoid drift. Set a reasonable window to assess character, agree on a timeline, and let alignment—not inertia—decide the next step. No ultimatums, just mutual clarity about what you’re building together.

We also unpack the comfort trap: how routine and physical intimacy can mask misalignment and lead to seven‑year situationships or marriages formed out of convenience. You’ll hear the markers of true marriage material—integrity under stress, shared values about money and kids, conflict repair, generosity—and how to test them in real life. The stats on divorce and unhappy marriages are sobering, but they aren’t destiny. Purposeful dating flips the odds by filtering quickly and investing deeply where it counts.

If you’re tired of mixed signals and lost years, this conversation gives you the words and the plan to move forward with strength. Press play, share it with a friend who needs clarity, and tell us: What timeline and standards are you committing to now? Subscribe, leave a review, and help more people date with purpose.