Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP209 – Londons Hottest Halloween Swingers Party – Le Boudoir Swingers Club London

What really happens inside a Halloween swingers party in central London? In this episode we share our two-night Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club. From Friday’s single-male night to Saturday’s couples-heavy chaos, plus a very hot dungeon “wine cellar” soft swap.

We talk club vibes, playroom etiquette, and the not-so-sexy realities (hello BV) that can kill the mood, along with practical tips for getting more out of your swinger club nights.

In this episode:

• Our Halloween weekend at Le Boudoir Swingers Club London, logistics, location, and first impressions.
• Friday single-male night vs Saturday’s more couples-heavy energy.
• Dungeon play: a sensual, soft-swap session in the catacombs and how we navigated boundaries.
• Why dress down rules and playroom etiquette matter more than most people think.
• Dealing with vibe-killers (like BV and fully clothed spectators) without shaming anyone.
• Swinger success tips: dressing down, mingling beyond your friend group, and following up on missed connections.

Watch the Le Boudoir YouTube Club Tour https://youtu.be/2aRB5d64lPg?si=mtw9QtXS8k4m02x7

Useful Links from this Episode Libertine Events – Lifestyle takeovers & events: https://libertineevents.com/ Patreon – See the Dress Down Lingerie Cate wore: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/ Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP208 – Are Dirty Vanillas a Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic? (Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties) Bonus Episode: HotTakes with Wanderlust Swingers

Are “dirty vanillas” ruining swinger parties… or are we just old and grumpy? In this HotTakes bonus episode, we unpack the rise of sexy parties vs swinger parties — couples who love the lingerie, lights, drugs and dance floor, but have zero intention of swapping or playing. From empty playrooms at Dutch “takeovers” to US events that feel more MDMA than moaning, we ask: is this evolution, dilution, or just a different lane of fun?

• Dirty Vanilla 101: what the term actually means (monogamous couples who love the vibe, flirting, lingerie, but don’t play) and why it’s often used as a slur in the lifestyle.
• Marketing or Epidemic? Swinger events advertised as “dance parties” on TikTok/IG and “swinger parties” on dating sites – who’s actually to blame: the crowd, or the promoters?
• Sexy Parties vs Swinger Parties: Dutch club takeovers, 1200-person Amsterdam “swinger” events with no licensed playrooms, and the fetish / dirty vanilla / swinger mash-up that pleases no one.
• Are we the problem? Cate & Darrell realise their expectations were stuck in “old school swinger” mode while the culture has shifted under their feet.
• Listener Q – Tim: “We’re exclusive. Can we go to a swingers club just for the vibe?” Cate’s nuanced yes, Darrell’s “please do!” and why intention + contribution matters more than labels.

We wrap by asking the big question: are dirty vanillas a lifestyle epidemic… or is this just what evolution looks like in a more fluid, less-stigmatized, sex-positive world?

Coming Up Next EP209 - Halloween weekend in London, MFMs, costumes, and chaos: stories from the playroom and beyond.

Useful Links from this Episode Libertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France): https://libertineevents.com/ Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls: https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder Wanderlust Swingers Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com/ Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

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Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP207 – How to Not Get Laid at Swingers Events (aka: are you “social-sexual”ing your way out of play?)

Ever left a lifestyle party with a sore throat from talking…and nothing else? In this episode we unpack why being a charismatic, chatty social butterfly can accidentally cock-block your own fun. Social sexual vs. DTF energy, how mixed signals stall momentum, and the exact moves to shift from talk to touch, without being creepy. Yes, there are wombat and platypus facts. No, we’re not sorry.

• Social V's Sexy: why holding court makes you look “unavailable,” the “talk block,” and how intent signals attraction better than endless banter.
• 6 Social Archetypes that Miss the Moment: the MC, the Talker, the Broad Flirt, the RBF, the “One More Drink,” and the Ghost
• Poll Results: 47% chat and forget to switch to play; 47% sometimes drift that way
• From Flirt to Close: specific lines that move things forward (“Are you free later?” vs. “Wanna go now?”)
• Listener Q: Tiffany’s husband holds court; Cate’s tactics to isolate, redirect, and actually get to a playroom
• Animal Fact Interlude: UV-glowing platypuses and cube-pooping wombats (you’re welcome, Charlotte).

EP208 – Sex Parties vs. Sexy Parties & the Dirty Vanilla Epidemic: how to read formats, avoid “no playroom” traps, and set expectations.

• Libertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France) https://libertineevents.com/
• Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder
• Wanderlust Swingers Website https://wanderlustswingers.com/
• Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122

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