Okay, that may be a little hyperbolic. BUT, we're pretty sure if you can root out some of the fake rush rush rush, your quality of life will improve. And these days, we'll take whatever we can get. So take a deep breath and listen in for some ideas on slowing everything down at work, at home, and with yourself. Your nervous system will thank you.

Let's face it, not only is setting goals in January forcing the issue, making a list of goals that don't feel quite right makes the whole tradition pretty boring. In this episode, Kara and Jensie talk about making goals that are in alignment with your values, waiting until February (or later) to start, and using a bingo card to entice your inner 5-year-old with stickers.

In the first episode of Waffles Friends Work, Kara and Jensie set the table for a rich season-long discussion of personal values. After convincing you that articulating your personal values is a worthwhile endeavor, they give some ideas on how to actually figure out what your values are. Using examples from their own personal values, you'll learn that no two people share the same values or the same route to finding out what those values are. Also, find out why Kara admires Leslie Knope so much, what Jensie admires in The Dude from The Big Lebowski, and why most of their family is obsessed with the parents from Easy A.

Get all the resources from this episode on our website.

How does knowing your values improve your self-care? In this episode, Kara and Jensie make the case that knowing your values is self-care and finding ways to honor them makes your self-care practice much more effective. With practical examples from their own values and self-care practices to a story on being mansplained on how to drink more water, join them to get some ideas on how to incorporate your own values into how you show up for yourself every day. Self-care looks different for everyone, just ask Tom, Donna, and Ben from Parks & Rec—then find a way to treat yo self.

See all resources and show notes on our website.

Summary

We've talked through setting boundaries with and holding ourselves accountable, but things get a little trickier when we start involving other people. Setting boundaries helps us set our relationships up for success by reducing resentment and helping others understand how we want to be treated.

Takeaways

• Boundaries are essential for building stronger relationships.
• Misusing the term 'boundary' can lead to controlling behavior.
• Healthy boundaries involve personal choices, not dictating others' actions.
• Setting boundaries can improve interpersonal dynamics.
• Trusting others to set their own boundaries is crucial.
• Boundaries can be flexible and adjusted as needed.
• It's important to communicate boundaries clearly and kindly.
• Pop culture references can help illustrate boundary concepts.
• Navigating boundaries in family relationships can be complex.
• Encouraging friends to set boundaries fosters healthier connections.

Chapters

00:00 The Art of Rambling and Podcasting
02:46 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships
05:34 Misconceptions About Boundaries
08:26 Examples of Healthy Boundaries
11:20 Navigating Boundaries with Family
14:14 Pop Culture References and Boundaries
16:50 Workplace Boundaries and Friendships
19:56 Setting Boundaries with Friends
22:58 The Importance of Trust in Boundaries
25:48 The Role of Boundaries in Self-Care
28:57 The Spectrum of Boundary Violations
31:35 Encouraging Others to Set Boundaries
34:40 The Flexibility of Boundaries
37:11 Final Thoughts on Boundaries

Keywords

boundaries, relationships, self-care, communication, personal growth, podcasting, friendships, family dynamics, workplace boundaries, emotional intelligence

Yes, they are here already. We know it's overwhelming to get through the holiday season and there's a lot of pressure on moms to Do It All. What we'd like to propose is using your values to guide your prioritization and schedule this holiday season. By focusing on what really matters to you and your family and consciously letting some things go, you can relieve some of the busy-ness of the season.

Jump in to hear some ideas on being intentional about your holidays and get what matters most on your calendar this year.

Download your Holiday Values Hitlist HERE.

Showing up for ourselves and in our values can have a profound impact on our relationships. By knowing who we are, we allow the people in our lives to love us as we are, not as who we think they want us to be. And, in turn, gives us the perspective to love those around us as they want to be loved. In this episode, Kara and Jensie cover resentment and self-betrayal along with ways to identify both and most importantly, what to do when you find yourself in either space. Jump in to hear some ways to start small in learning to trust your gut and how to communicate with loved ones early and often.

Find all the resources and other goodies from this episode on our website.

Keywords

boundaries, accountability, self-care, personal growth, relationships, emotional health, setting limits, self-awareness, communication, personal development

Summary

This episode covers the 3 steps to setting boundaries: identifying where we need to set a boundary, determining what the boundary should be, and enforcing those boundaries. Setting boundaries takes practice and giving yourself grace—like so many other things in life.

Takeaways

• Boundaries are essential for personal accountability.
• You are the only one responsible for holding your boundaries.
• Start small when setting boundaries to build confidence.
• Identify areas in your life where you feel drained or resentful.
• Enforcing boundaries can be challenging but is necessary for self-care.
• Expect pushback when setting boundaries, especially from those who benefit from your lack of them.
• Communicate your boundaries positively to maintain relationships.
• Jealousy can arise in others when you set boundaries they can't or won't.
• Teaching boundaries to others is part of the process.
• Give yourself grace as you navigate the complexities of boundary setting.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Boundaries
02:48 Understanding Boundaries and Accountability
04:12 Identifying When to Set Boundaries
05:59 Starting Small with Boundaries
08:34 Practical Examples of Setting Boundaries
10:51 Enforcing Boundaries with Others
12:54 Teaching Boundaries to Children
14:37 Final Thoughts on Boundaries