Episodios

  • Are you being groomed by a narcissist?

    Are you being groomed by a narcissist?
    May 17 2025
    In this revealing episode of Unlock U with Dr. Shannan Crawford, we dive deep into the often‐hidden dynamics of narcissistic grooming—from a psychoanalytic lens—and uncover how early relationship templates can leave us especially vulnerable. You’ll learn how to spot the red flags, understand the unconscious roots, and put practical safeguards in place. What Is Narcissistic Grooming? Definition: A gradual process by which someone with narcissistic traits gains your trust, isolates you, and then exploits your emotions and boundaries for their own validation and control. Often including intense amounts of verbal praise "Idealizing you", in which they give you signifiant amounts of attention, time, gifts, acts of service, and praise that, many people have described as, "intoxicating." Some have described that "it almost felt like he adored me so much and so suddenly that it was overwhelming. It was so flattering that I ignored all red flags because the life he described we would have was exhilarating! He sent huge flower arrangements and flashy expensive gifts to me at work so my coworkers could see it. He messaged me multiple times a day with the most amazing complements and telling me everything I always wanted to hear. He came into my life, so strong and so fast... he literally came out of nowhere and now, boom, this amazing man is telling me he wants to marry me and take me around the world and I would never need to work again because he wants to spoil me! I was so enraptured that I didn't notice that his current life didn't match up to the fantasies he was creating in my mind of how our life would be..." Another woman says, "He convinced me that he loved me so much that he couldn't be without me... I didn't notice that he was starting to isolate me... I had to give up friends and family who did not fully "support" our relationship. I was so overwhelmed by the intensity of his attention and praise, that I started to subtly build my life around him... eventually I lost my other relationships... By the time he discarded me, I was COMPLETELY alone." Can you resonate? Psychoanalytic Perspective: Splitting & Idealization/Devaluation: Narcissists first “idealize” you as perfect, then “devalue” you once they feel threatened. Projective Identification: They project their own unacceptable feelings onto you, making you feel responsible for their emotions. Object Relations Roots: Early caregivers who were inconsistent or overly enmeshed can leave you craving approval and slow to see manipulation. Why Some of Us Are More Susceptible Drawing on the Restoring‑Self‑Cohesion (RSC) model, Dr. Crawford explains how unconscious templates from childhood shape our adult relationships: Caretaker Role: You learned to put others’ emotional needs first to feel safe or worthy. People‑Pleaser Template: Seeking external validation became your primary way to soothe childhood anxieties. Rescuer Script: You believe “fixing” others proves your value—making you an easy target for someone who preys on empathy. Unconscious Sabotage Loops: Old patterns pull you back into dynamics where your boundaries blur and your self‑worth hinges on pleasing someone else. Practical Safeguards to Protect Yourself Strengthen Your Boundaries Practice saying “no” and notice your discomfort. Use “I” statements to express needs: “I feel… when you…” Build an Early‑Warning System Keep a journal of interactions that feel off—look for patterns of praise turning into blame. Share concerns with a trusted friend or therapist to get an outside perspective. Cultivate Healthy “Mirror” Relationships Surround yourself with people who reflect empathy, consistency, and genuine care. Schedule regular check‑ins with your support circle. Deepen Self‑Awareness with RSC Tools Identify your primary relationship template and notice when you slip into old roles. Use grounding rituals (breathwork, journaling, somatic check‑ins) to stay connected to your own needs. Build Community Be honest with your friends and family. Try not to sugar coat the relationship. A healthy relationship can withstand reality testing. When you're early on in a relationship, you're infatuated which means you're literally not thinking clearly. So build healthy relationships with those who can see clearly and have permission to speak into your life! Seek Professional Partnership Consider one‑on‑one RSC coaching to map unconscious blocks and restore internal alignment. Subscribe & Stay Connected 🎧 Subscribe to the Unlock U Podcast for future episodes ✉️ Join our RSC Community & Newsletter to access RSC groups and personal coaching Free Confidential Consult Text “New” to 817‑601‑5540 for a confidential, free phone consultation with our team.
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    24 m
  • The Mother Impact: Unlocking Deeper Love by Healing Old Wounds

    The Mother Impact: Unlocking Deeper Love by Healing Old Wounds
    May 11 2025

    This episode isn’t about blaming your mom—it’s about understanding yourself with compassion. 💛

    In this powerful conversation, Dr. Shannan Crawford explores how our earliest experiences with our mothers help form the blueprint for how we love, trust, and connect today. Rather than adding to “mom guilt,” this episode honors the sacred role of mothers while unpacking the impact of unmet needs, misattunements, and emotional wounds many of us carry without realizing it.

    With Crawford Clinics’ signature blend of clinical insight and spiritual depth, you’ll learn how your attachment style was formed—and how to gently heal it. Discover the transformative power of calling an “internal board meeting” to realign your inner world, rebuild a secure attachment from the inside out, and finally experience deeper, more connected relationships in every area of life.

    You are worthy of safe, soul-nourishing love—and healing starts here.
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    17 m
  • Unlocking ADHD: Proven Strategies for Families + The Power of Holistic Healing

    Unlocking ADHD: Proven Strategies for Families + The Power of Holistic Healing
    May 4 2025

    If you're a parent feeling overwhelmed by ADHD symptoms — whether in your child or even in yourself — this episode will give you real hope and practical strategies.

    In today's conversation, Dr. Shannan Crawford sits down with Dr. Kelly Cagle, a researcher, educator, and ADHD coach who specializes in equipping moms and families with science-backed tools to navigate ADHD with confidence.

    Together, they unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface of ADHD symptoms — from brain function to emotional regulation — and explore how an integrative medical approach can make all the difference.

    At Crawford Clinics, we offer holistic counseling, coaching, and personalized integrative treatment plans to address the underlying brain and body issues that may be contributing to ADHD symptoms — helping you or your loved one thrive, not just survive.

    ✨ Learn more about Dr. Kelly Cagle's podcast, courses, and coaching: 👉 https://dot.cards/drkellycagle?s=qrs&e=cXItMzRtdk53RHIxSQ

    If you’re ready for support, we invite you to reach out to Crawford Clinics for personalized ADHD counseling, coaching, and integrative brain health care.

    🌟 Schedule your consultation today at CrawfordClinics.com or simply text "ADHD" to 817-601-5540
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    33 m
  • From Coping to Thriving: How Depth Work Leads to Lasting Transformation

    From Coping to Thriving: How Depth Work Leads to Lasting Transformation
    Apr 27 2025

    When you've tried everything to feel better — but the symptoms keep coming back — it's not a willpower problem. It’s a sign your unconscious mind needs a deeper upgrade.

    In a world crowded with self-proclaimed experts, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Shannan Crawford stands apart. As the creator of the Restoring-Self-Cohesion™ approach, she helps you uncover the hidden root causes behind emotional and mental roadblocks — bringing clarity, breakthrough, and lasting change.

    If you're ready to upgrade your thoughts, relationships, and life — and step into the confident, world-changer version of yourself you know is in there — you're in the right place.

    Learn more about our proven, results-driven process at CrawfordClinics.com — because real transformation starts from the inside out.
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    20 m
  • Discover your PURPOSE

    Discover your PURPOSE
    Mar 9 2025

    Life's too short to live without purpose. Join us as Dr. Crawford illuminates the keys to unlocking your internal world - remove internal glass ceilings - so you can connect with your true purpose and live a life of impact! You are here for a purpose! We believe in you! The Restoring-Self-Cohesion approach is here to help you get activated!

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    33 m
  • Unlock U Ep 174: Leading With True Confidence with Stephanie Kelsey

    Unlock U Ep 174: Leading With True Confidence with Stephanie Kelsey
    Jan 27 2025

    Have you ever wondered if your leadership style is too passive, too aggressive, or truly confident? In this episode, Coach Stephanie Kelsey—aka the “Velvet Hammer”—joins me to explore what it means to lead with authentic confidence.

    Stephanie shares her experiences leading large teams in corporate and volunteer spaces, showing how to balance strength with approachability while inspiring collaboration. We dive into the downsides of aggressive leadership (stifling innovation, shutting down feedback) and passive leadership (avoiding conflict, weak boundaries). You’ll leave with tools to foster trust, creativity, and connection wherever you lead.

    🎉 Plus, I’m so excited to announce our brand-new Crawford Clinics location! Stop by during our Open House at: 📍 Southlake Blvd, Suite 110, Southlake, TX 76092 🗓️ Saturday, February 1, 2025 ⏰ 2:00 PM - 4:00 PM

    Come say hi, tour the space, and dream with us about how we can serve you better. Let’s dream big, push through the hard stuff, and live intentionally together!
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    22 m
  • Unlock U Ep 173: Waiting for Dreams

    Unlock U Ep 173: Waiting for Dreams
    Jan 20 2025

    Guys, I cannot wait to catch up with you! This podcast feels like sitting down together for coffee and just chatting about life, dreams, and all the things happening with Crawford Clinics and my world. Let’s be real—life can feel like it’s full of waiting. Waiting for a relationship, a degree, a promotion, or even that next vacation. I get it because I’m a dreamer too. Like, binder-full-of-dreams kind of dreamer (and yes, it has tabs!).

    But here’s the thing: dreaming is the easy part. The waiting? The pruning? The maturing? Oh man, that’s where the growth really happens. In this episode, I’m opening up about how those seasons of waiting can shape you—and how you can adopt a “growth mindset” that says, I can do that. It’s a mindset passed down from my family, starting with my grandpa, who faced so many obstacles but always believed in pushing past limitations.

    I’ll also share a fun update about our brand-new Crawford Clinics location in Southlake, Texas! If you’re in the area, come to our Open House on February 1st from 2–4 PM. We’d love to meet you, show you around, and hear your ideas on how we can serve you better. Let’s dream big, push through the hard stuff, and live intentionally together. Love you, friends!
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    30 m
  • Unlock U Ep 172: Breaking Free from Shame

    Unlock U Ep 172: Breaking Free from Shame
    Jan 13 2025

    Hey friends! If you missed the last episode, I recommend checking it out first—it sets the stage for this one.

    We’re diving into the sneaky lies shame plants in our lives—like "I’m too much" or "I’ll be rejected if people really see me." These beliefs often show up in perfectionism, people-pleasing, or even burnout. Take Andrew, for example (name changed). He seemed happy and successful, but beneath it all, unresolved shame and unmet needs were creating resentment, anxiety, and disconnection. Sound familiar?

    Here’s the good news: you’re not stuck! By rejecting shame and embracing radical self-acceptance, you can realign your inner world and reconnect with your true self. When your spirit leads, creativity, peace, and purpose follow.

    Let’s explore how to unearth the parts of us we’ve hidden, invite healing, and live with freedom. Curious? Watch now! 💡
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    18 m
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