Unbecoming Who I Was: Toi Waddles on Healing After a Hard Love

In this episode of Unbecoming Me, host Toi shares her deeply personal journey of transformation after a challenging relationship with an incarcerated partner. Reflecting on how this experience led her through loneliness, self-discovery, and healing, Toi emphasizes the importance of shedding old identities to embrace authenticity. She encourages listeners to honor their own "unbecoming" seasons, offering hope and empowerment for anyone navigating pain or change. The episode closes with a reminder to rate, review, and share the podcast, inviting others to join in the journey of healing and self-growth.

Timestamps

Introduction to "The Lockdown Lifestyle Podcast" (00:00:43)
Toi Waddles introduces her podcast, sharing her experience dating an inmate and the realities of relationships affected by incarceration.

Realities of Love and Relationships (00:02:51)
Discusses the unpredictability of love, personal relationship experiences, and the importance of honesty.

Learning to Love and Be Loved (00:11:53)
Addresses how some people struggle with love due to lack of experience or past trauma.

Advice for Women: Self-Respect (00:14:06)
Encourages women to avoid being doormats, stand up for themselves, and expect respect and love.

Mutual Respect and Boundaries (00:18:11)
Discusses the importance of mutual respect, handling disagreements maturely, and maintaining healthy boundaries.

Teamwork in Relationships (00:20:23)
Stresses the need for teamwork, mutual understanding, and loyalty in relationships, especially under challenging circumstances.

Lessons from Incarceration and Loneliness (00:24:03)
Toi reflects on what being "locked up" teaches about relationships, loneliness, and self-awareness.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"You can't help who you fall in love with."

"Love will have you doing some crazy things."

"There are so many people walking around not knowing how to love themselves because they were never loved."

"You just have to be honest with yourself."

"You are supposed to be loved, appreciated, adored, and admired."

"If I'm not your queen, then you need to let me go."

"Your unbecoming is the beginning of everything beautiful that you never even knew you'd live within."

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