This episode welcomes the return of Mark Cusack, ICF Coach and founder of the support site “Not Defining”, to discuss his new book, Fluid: A Guide For People With Flexible Sexuality. (Finally, someone who can define one of the most commonly-used labels on this show!) We chatted about fluidity, what it means, how it’s shown up in our lives, and why it can be a helpful way to think about the sexuality spectrum – among other spectrums.

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This week I chatted with Jon McCray Jones and Natalie Moe, organizers of “$luts Party”, a monthly sex-positive rave that centers bi and queer people in the Chicago nightlife scene, and hosts of the Fun with $ex Podcast. We talked about their experiences attending play parties all over the world, how “Two Bi Guys” helped Jon recognize and explore his bisexuality, why they decided to create bi-inclusive and fluid-focused rave and play parties, what those parties are really like, and how that scene promotes self-discovery for individuals as well as new ways of being in relationships.

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Fun with $ex Podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fun-with-sex-podcast/id1742478612

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My guest this week is Wayne Scott, a writer, psychotherapist, and teacher who recently published a new memoir, “The Maps They Gave Us”, which tells the story of a man and woman who fall in love again on their way to getting a divorce. We chatted about what it was liking knowing you were bisexual during the AIDS crisis, the unique circumstances under which he met and committed to his wife, the role bisexuality played in his marriage, why they came very, VERY close to divorce, why they decided to try opening up their marriage (and how they navigated that), and how this arrangement led to new forms of love, understanding, and partnership.

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Wayne’s website: https://www.waynescottwrites.com/