Think it's too late for you to come out? Have you ever let regret about the past get in the way of making empowering decisions for your future? We've all been there — but it's never too late to live your life authentically and intentionally.

This week, I sit down with Doug Moffitt, who began exploring his sexuality — and his authentic self — in his 80s. After a lifetime of repression, Doug followed a sudden impulse to attend a gay men’s tantra retreat… without telling his wife. What happened transformed his life, and he's so grateful he took the leap.

In this episode, we talk about:
– Coming out later in life (and what anxiety about being “too late” is really about)
– The moment everything clicked for Doug (a spiritual calling that he thankfully listened to)
– Navigating the gay world in a “second adolescence” at 84
– Consent, boundaries, and learning a whole new culture
– A powerful first tantric experience that opened something spiritual
– Letting go through sex, psychedelics, and self-acceptance
– Becoming “Doug 2.0” — bigger, freer, and more alive than ever before.

This is a unique, funny, and surprisingly moving conversation about authenticity, curiosity, and what can happen when you finally let yourself be who you are — at any age.

There are about 15 minutes of bonus content with Doug -- plus FULL VIDEO of this episode, where you can see his see-through black lace shirt -- on Patreon. Thank you for your support! www.Patreon.com/RobertBrooksCohen

Here's the video of Doug being suspended that he mentioned at the end (content warning: hooks in skin): https://www.instagram.com/p/DI2HkUvOUyJ/

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Today we're talking about psychedelics and how they can intersect with queerness and the journey toward authenticity. I recently went on a new(ish) bi podcast called "This Feels Bi", where I was interviewed by co-hosts Amanda Kohr and Erin Deason about one of my favorite topics. We talked about cannabis, mushrooms, ayahuasca, LSD, and more, and I got to share how these medicines have helped me on my bi journey. Included here is a 14-minute segment -- for the full interview, check out their podcast! (Link below.)

Continuing on the same theme, I'm also sharing two clips from my YouTube page about a) how psychedelics are a lot closer to therapy than a party drug, and b) why integration after a psychedelic journey is even more important than the trip itself. Finally, I share some of the insights I received on a very recent medicine experience.

Stay tuned for more episodes coming soon, including a 3-part series on BFF!

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"This Feels Bi "on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3OdB6atfY1y1mcqLMl57hD

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In Part 2, Dr. Joshua Gebhardt (a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in working with mixed-orientation couples) turns the lens inward and shares his own personal story — growing up in a conservative Christian environment, navigating masculinity as a college athlete, entering a mixed-orientation marriage himself, and slowly coming to terms with his gay identity. He reflects on the role of religion, shame, repression, and community expectations, and how those experiences ultimately shaped both his life and his work as a therapist. We also discussed how his own experience of coming out to his wife and ultimately divorcing informs his approach with clients. This is an honest look at untangling who you were taught to be from who you truly are — and how that journey can transform the way you help others do the same.

The Gebhardt Group: https://www.thegebhardtgroup.co/home

Email Joshua directly: josh@gebhardtgroup.co

Sign up for Dr. Gebhardt’s Group, “Women Navigating Marriages with Gay or Bisexual Men”: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-0jju_kpELwu9HPnwP6LA720NcnkYR7UR3lGRcdedqrWqgg/viewform

Support for people in Mixed-Orientation Marriages:

HOW (Husbands Out to Wives): https://how-support.org/

GAMMA: https://www.gammasupport.org/

MOR (Mixed-Orientation Marriages) & More: https://www.morandmore.org/

Mixed Orientation Marriage: Pathways to Success (Free E-Book): https://mixedorientation.com/

AlternatePath (for women who have discovered their husbands are bi or gay): https://groups.io/g/AlternatePath

(Note: these show notes previously and erroneously mentioned "OurPath", which is not my recommendation and which has been traumatic for people I've spoken to.)

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