How Much Estate Information Should You Share with Your Kids?

In this episode of “Trust Us: Estate Planning Wisdom,” Danielle Friedman, Herb Fineburg, and Max

McCauley explore one of the most common client questions: How much should parents tell their

children about their estate plan?

They break the issue into three levels—essentials, structure, and numbers—and discuss what to

share, when to share it, and why timing and maturity matter. From identifying key documents to

understanding trust structures and navigating sensitive family dynamics, this conversation offers

practical guidance for families aiming to strike the right balance.

00:00 – Introduction: Why Estate Transparency Is So Complicated

01:00 – Survey Insight: Most Boomers Think Sharing Is Important—But Few Actually Do

02:00 – Level One: The Essentials (Documents, Advisors, Policies & Emergency Info)

04:00 – Why Fiduciary Roles Should Not Be Revealed Too Early

06:00 – Burial Wishes, Insurance Policies & Other Overlooked Essentials

08:00 – Level Two: Understanding Structure Without Disclosing Wealth

09:00 – Trusts vs. Outright Gifts: What Children Need to Know (and Why)

10:00 – Letters of Intent & Explaining the Philosophy Behind Your Plan

12:00 – Conversations Don’t Count—Only Documents Do

13:00 – Level Three: The Numbers (Why Most Parents Should Avoid This Tier)

14:00 – Maturity, Financial Independence & When Kids Are Not Ready

16:00 – When Shared Numbers Reduce Pressure—or Create It

17:00 – Lifestyle vs. Reality: When Children Don’t Know Their Parents’ Wealth

18:00 – Aligning Spouses: Why You Should Rehearse the Conversation First

19:00 – Final Thoughts: No One-Size-Fits-All Approach

If you’d like to learn more or have questions, contact:

Danielle — danielle.friedman@offitkurman.com

Herb — hfineburg@offitkurman.com

Max — cmccauley@offitkurman.com

In this episode of 'Trust Us,' Danielle Friedman, Max McCauley, and Herb Fineburg discuss a complex estate planning scenario from a recent article. A father of three sons, two from his first marriage and one from a later relationship, grapples with the decision of whether to divide his estate equally among his children despite differences in their financial situations. The conversation delves into the potential problems with unequal distribution, the complexities of pot trusts, and the use of disclaimers. They highlight the importance of maintaining family harmony through equal treatment while addressing future wealth concerns. The team also emphasizes the necessity of updating estate plans regularly to reflect current wishes and relationships.

00:00 Introduction and Overview
00:48 Reader's Dilemma: Balancing Inheritance
02:05 Danielle's Perspective: Assumptions and Fairness
02:50 Max's Advice: Equal Shares to Avoid Conflict
04:15 Estate Planning Tools: Disclaimers and Pot Trusts
07:27 Real-Life Scenarios: Wealth Disparities Among Children
10:20 Practical Solutions: Trusts and Equal Shares
17:56 Stepchildren and Estate Planning
18:42 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

If you are interested in learning more or have any questions, please feel free to contact Danielle at danielle.friedman@offitkurman.com, Herb at hfineburg@offitkurman.com, and Max at cmccauley@offitkurman.com.

In this episode of Trust Us, Danielle Friedman, Max McCauley, and Herb Fineburg discuss the recent changes brought by the One Big Beautiful Bill Act, which raised the estate tax exemption level starting January 1, 2026. Despite the increased exemption, the hosts recommend continuing with estate planning and gifting during a person's lifetime due to potential future changes in the law and state inheritance taxes. They emphasize the advantages of lifetime gifting to irrevocable trusts, the importance of initiating the statute of limitations for gift tax returns, and strategies for minimizing state inheritance taxes. The episode concludes with advice to review current estate plans to maximize the benefits of the new exemption levels.

• (00:00) - Introduction to the One Big Beautiful Bill Act
• (01:11) - Understanding the New Exemption Limits
• (02:08) - Gifting Strategies and Exemption Usage
• (04:04) - Potential Changes and Risks
• (05:01) - Advantages of Using the Exemption Now
• (07:57) - State Inheritance and Estate Tax Considerations
• (10:40) - Reviewing and Updating Estate Plans
• (12:24) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts