Trauma Bonds Explained: Why We Stay, Even When It Hurts

In this powerful episode of Deciphering Growth, Tiffany and Eric explore the complex topic of trauma bonding—a survival-based attachment that forms through cycles of abuse, intermittent reinforcement, and emotional highs and lows.

We break down the neuroscience behind trauma bonds, including how the brain’s stress and reward systems can create emotional dependency, and why these bonds can feel so difficult to break. You'll learn the signs of trauma bonding, how love bombing plays a role in abusive dynamics, and how distorted self-worth can keep survivors stuck in harmful relationships.

We also discuss:

• How trauma bonding mirrors addiction cycles

• Why people “gaslight” themselves into staying

• The role of shame, guilt, and learned helplessness

• What recovery and reconnection to self can look like

💡 This episode is trauma-informed and supportive, offering psychoeducation—not judgment—for anyone navigating these experiences.