In this episode of Toddler Toolkit, we explore the difference between control language and connection language when dealing with toddler meltdowns.

"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!

Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!

Learn why phrases like 'calm down' and 'stop crying' often backfire, and discover 12 effective swaps to help support your child's emotional regulation. We also discuss the importance of intention and body language in parenting.

Plus, hear about the upcoming Happy Family Online Conference in October 2025 and get tips on how to navigate meltdowns even when you're burned out.

00:00 Introduction: From Control to Connection
01:35 Understanding Control Language
02:44 The Importance of Connection Language
04:42 12 Helpful Swaps from Control to Connection
10:18 Real-Life Examples and Final Thoughts
12:25 Upcoming Events and Conclusion

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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!

Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.

• Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast
• Check out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!
• Join the Toddler Mom Community
• Follow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparenting
• Watch the YouTube channel
• Check out the blog

From Tantrums to ‘I’m Sorry’: Emotional Milestones Every Parent Should Know

"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!

Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!

Episode Mentions:

3 Phrases That Calm Toddler Meltdowns Over Mistakes

What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything

Today's Episode:
Parents love celebrating first steps and words, but what about emotional milestones?

In this episode of Toddler Toolkit, we'll talk about key emotional milestones like empathy, self-calming, and remorse.

Join us as we share practical tips and real-life stories, including an embarrassing but insightful incident at Chick-fil-A, to help you recognize and celebrate your child's emotional growth.

Learn how to notice and name these important skills and how to support your toddler’s emotional development. Plus, hear about special announcements including upcoming conferences and our second anniversary celebration!

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Milestones
01:06 The Indoor Play Place Incident
04:35 Key Emotional Milestones
07:29 7 Notice and Name Scripts
09:40 Understanding Delayed Processing
11:21 Regret vs. Remorse
13:06 Supporting Emotional Growth
14:46 Announcements and Upcoming Events

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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!

Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.

• Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast
• Check out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!
• Join the Toddler Mom Community
• Follow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparenting
• Watch the YouTube channel
• Check out the blog

3 Phrases That Calm Toddler Meltdowns Over Mistakes

"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!

In this episode, Heather shares personal stories and practical tips for parents to help their toddlers build resilience. Through reassurance and a growth mindset, toddlers can overcome frustration and perfectionism.

The episode includes specific scripts for parents to use, discusses common toddler struggles, and emphasizes the importance of validating emotions and encouraging retrying. Listeners will learn how early intervention can have a long-lasting positive impact on their child's development. The episode concludes with an invitation to explore further resources and celebrate the podcast's achievements over its two-year journey.

00:00 Welcome to the Podcast
00:02 Understanding Toddler Meltdowns
01:26 The Remote Truck Struggle
03:36 Teaching Moments from Accidents
06:28 Validating and Reassuring Your Child
09:29 Common Toddler Perfectionism Triggers
12:17 Building Resilience for Life
13:01 Exciting Announcements and Final Thoughts

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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!

Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.

• Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast
• Check out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!
• Join the Toddler Mom Community
• Follow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparenting
• Watch the YouTube channel
• Check out the blog