In this unexpectedly playful episode of Pinky & Ava Pajama Party, Pinky opens up about a major first: stepping into the role of Top during a recent scene—and what that experience unlocked inside her.

From the emotional high of her book release party to a tearful, vulnerable reaction that caught her off guard, Pinky reflects on how saying yes instead of no shifted her energy, confidence, and sense of self.

She talks about letting her inner Domme out, feeling unexpectedly energized in scene, and how this moment became part of a much bigger reflection on the year she's had and the woman she's becoming.

Along the way, the conversation takes a cozy Pajama Party turn—because of course it does—with side quests into banana bread & date balls; and the comfort of laughter, and softness after growth.

It's an episode about power, permission, embodiment, and honoring your own evolution… with a little kitchen-table chaos mixed in.

Slip into your PJs and join the party.

In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we're joined by Paul Weinfield—musician, meditation teacher, life coach, and retired professor of religion from Columbia University and Hunter College

Paul shares his personal polyamory journey and explores ethical non-monogamy through the lens of spirituality, religion, and mindfulness. Together, we discuss how presence, compassion, and non-attachment show up in poly relationships, how religious frameworks influence our views of love and commitment, and how polyamory can become a practice in conscious, intentional living.

A thoughtful and grounding conversation for anyone curious about the intersection of spirituality and non-monogamy.

🎧 Listen now and go deeper.

Rules.

Everyone has them. But where do they come from—and do they actually work?

In this episode of Three Shades of Grey, we dive into the rules couples create when entering non-monogamy, with a special focus on swinging. From no kissing and no single men to same room only and no repeat partners, we unpack the most common rules, why people make them, and what they're really trying to protect.

We talk about the difference between rules, boundaries, and agreements, how some rules help couples feel safe, and how others quietly create more anxiety than security. We also explore how rules evolve over time, which ones tend to backfire, and what healthier alternatives can look like as couples gain experience.

If you've ever wondered whether your rules are serving your relationship—or holding it back—this episode is for you.

LINKS

Three Shades Of Grey | Website

Episode 008: Setting the B.A.R (Boundaries, Agreements, and Rules)

Awakening: The Growth and Empowerment of Women in Open and Poly Relationships

Pinky's Audiobook

PolyPoet.com

The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love