We're kicking off "This Might Be Triggering" with a topic that hits everyone: the tyranny of "should." You know that voice in your head that says "I should have gotten that promotion," "I should be a better partner," or "I should have my life figured out by now"? That voice isn't helping—it's hurting.

In this episode, your hosts Jennifer and Sara get real about how this seemingly innocent word sets us up for failure and shame. Jennifer guides Sara through identifying her own "should" patterns (spoiler: Sara has a few), while they both unpack how this limiting mindset infiltrates our careers, relationships, and personal goals in ways we don't even realize.

But here's the good news: there's a simple shift that can rewire your brain from shame to opportunity. By changing "should" to "could," you open up a world of possibilities instead of beating yourself up over the past. It sounds almost too easy, right? Trust us, it works.

Whether you're someone who's been in therapy for years or you're just starting to pay attention to your mental health, this episode offers practical tools you can use immediately. Jennifer and Sara's dynamic makes complex psychological concepts feel like a conversation with your wisest, funniest friends—the ones who call you out but also lift you up.

Ready to stop "shoulding" all over yourself and start seeing opportunities instead? Listen to the full episode and share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. Because let's be honest, we all know someone who could use a little less "should" and a lot more "could" in their life.

Mental health insight that's therapeutic but not therapy—just two counselors keeping it real about the messy, meaningful journey of emotional wellness.

What's in this episode?

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Wellness

02:50 The Power of Compliments and Kindness

05:36 Understanding 'Should' and Its Impact

08:15 Generational Perspectives on 'Should' Statements

10:50 Neuroscience of 'Shoulding' and Its Effects

13:40 Navigating 'Shoulds' in Different Life Stages

16:31 Transforming 'Should' into 'Could'

19:16 Practical Steps to Change Your Mindset

22:01 The Role of Gratitude in Healing

24:42 Taking Ownership of Your Feelings

27:18 Conclusion

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