Running on autopilot? Constantly giving to everyone else while neglecting your own needs? Feeling disconnected from yourself? Welcome to our world! And unfortunately, the place where so many of us live.

Until now.

Meet Dr. Kristine Laderoute, a clinical psychologist with over 15 years of experience who's made it her mission to help women create space for themselves in their lives. Her approach goes beyond traditional therapy - she's a proponent of depth therapy and self-connection who believes that true healing happens when we learn to show up for ourselves.

In this transformative conversation, Dr. Laderoute reveals why the self-care industry has it backwards and shares the simple but profound practices that can help you reconnect with yourself, even in the chaos of midlife.

Feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or just vaguely discontent without knowing why, this episode offers practical tools and a fresh perspective on what it really means to show up and take care of yourself.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why making space for yourself isn't selfish, rather it's essential
• The difference between being "selfish" and "appropriately self-focused"
• How to break free from autopilot self-sacrificing behavior
• The power of self-compassionate language (and why you should start sentences with "of course")
• How to set boundaries that respect both yourself and others
• Why disconnection from yourself leads to that mysterious midlife discontent
• The connection between stockpiled emotions and physical health symptoms
• How to show up for yourself like you would for your best friend

Dr. Laderoute reminds us that you don't need a spa day or expensive retreat to make space for yourself - you need just 30 seconds, a few conscious breaths, and the revolutionary act of turning your attention inward.

Now is the time to show up for yourself.

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Dr. Kristine Laderoute Bio

Dr. Kristine Laderoute is a dedicated clinical psychologist and lifelong proponent of mental wellness. She has over 15 years of experience helping people with a broad range of mental health concerns using her diverse skill set. She completed her doctoral degree in Clinical Psychology at York University and underwent training spanning various therapeutic approaches and clinical settings, including The Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, Toronto General Hospital, North York General Hospital, the York University Counseling Centre, and private practices. In both her own private practice and her role at Lume Women + Health, she is driven by a desire to help people improve their lives through self-connection. She is especially passionate about creating space for women to feel seen, heard, and freed-up from emotional burden, as well as helping them to create space for themselves in their lives.

Links for this episode

• drkristineladeroute.com
• Dr. Kristine on Instagram
• lume women+health

Dealing with crippling uncontrollable rage, anxiety, and crushing depression? Feeling like you're completely falling apart and your doctor's solution is to just ‘manage your stress’? Not sure if what you're experiencing is depression, perimenopause, or something else entirely?

You're not losing your mind, you're not broken, and you're definitely not alone.

Consider this startling statistic from the SWAN study: a woman’s risk of experiencing depression in the menopause transition is 59% if she has a previous history of depression, and 28% for those without a history of depression. Those are some big numbers. And most women, and their doctors, are unaware of this risk.

Meet Dr. Ariel Dalfen, a psychiatrist who spent 12 years running the largest women's mental health program in Ontario – where she became frustrated watching women suffer unnecessarily. As CEO and Co-founder of BRIA, a revolutionary virtual clinic, Dr. Dalfen and her Co-founder Dr. Bev Young have created the one-stop shop women desperately need: comprehensive, individualized mental health and hormone care that actually works.

In This Episode

• Why some women's brains are "hormonally sensitive" and how to identify if you're one of them
• The critical questions about your reproductive history that can predict your perimenopause experience
• How to distinguish between perimenopause symptoms, depression, and PMDD
• Why tracking your cycles gives healthcare providers game-changing data
• The non-negotiables for mental health survival in midlife
• How BRIA's team-based approach stops women from falling through the cracks
• The stigma that’s keeping women silent about their struggles
• Dr. Dalfen’s new "Menopause Mental Health Certification" program

If you've been suffering alone or thinking this is just how midlife feels, this conversation will change everything. Dr. Dalfen will show you there's so much more than just surviving – and how to start thriving.

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Dr. Ariel Dalfen Bio

Dr. Ariel Dalfen is a psychiatrist with over 20 years of experience treating women across reproductive life stages: from those trying to conceive, those who are pregnant and postpartum through to the perimenopause/menopause population. She ran the largest women's mental health program in Ontario at Mount Sinai Hospital for 12 years and started the first of its kind province-wide women’s mental health telemedicine program in 2014.

In 2022, Dr. Dalfen co-founded and became the CEO of BRIA (www.betterbria.com) - a virtual care platform for women with mental health issues across reproductive life stages.

After completing her undergraduate degree at Princeton University, she attended McMaster University medical school, and then completed her specialty training in psychiatry at the University of Toronto’s Temerty Faculty of Medicine. Dr. Dalfen's research area explored technology innovations in women's mental health and she has published in academic medical journals.

She lectures for medical and public audiences on various topics related to women’s health and has been a medical contributor for many media outlets, from television to podcasts. In 2008, she published a book, When Baby Brings the Blues: Solutions for Postpartum Depression. This book is highly regarded and utilized by both healthcare providers and the general public.

Links for this episode

www.betterbria.com

BRIA on Instagram

In the second part of this incredible episode with Master’s level clinician and eating disorder specialist, we dive even deeper into how disordered eating shows up in ways we never expected – especially during the hormonal chaos of midlife.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why "clean eating" (clinically called orthorexia) is becoming increasingly problematic
• The deeper psychological roots beneath our food and body struggles
• How to model healthy eating behaviors for your children without passing on your own issues
• That freedom from these patterns is absolutely possible, no matter how long you've been stuck

We live in a culture that normalizes disordered eating. Luckily Kyla is here to show us what true food freedom actually looks like.

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Kyla Fox Bio

Kyla Fox has established herself as a visionary and innovator, when it comes to re-framing the way Canadians think about and treat eating disorders. As someone who struggled herself with an eating disorder, Fox identified care gaps and fundamental flaws in the treatment and recovery approach. Kyla is a Master’s level clinician with degrees from both the University of Toronto in the Master’s of Social Work program as well as an Honours Bachelor of Arts Degree in Women’s Studies. Kyla is a member of the Ontario Association of Social Workers and is registered with the Ontario College of Social Workers and Social Service Workers. She is also a member of the Academy of Eating Disorders and the National Eating Disorders Association. With such deep and varied experience in the field, Kyla is regularly called on by Canada’s top media outlets as a special commentator on a broad list of topics, including eating disorders, self-esteem, women’s health, body image, pregnancy and body confidence and more. For more information please visit www.kylafoxcentre.com.

Links for this episode

Instagram: @KylaFoxRecovery

Facebook: @KylaFoxCentre

Twitter: @KylaFoxCentre

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