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Throwback episode!

Costumes and candy get all the attention, but the real magic of Halloween starts with a short conversation before you hit the sidewalk. We dive into the simple, practical steps that turn a sugar‑charged night into a calm, safe, and joyful memory: clear candy rules, repeatable safety cues, and manners that make neighbors smile. As a licensed psychologist and parent, I share how to set expectations that stick, reduce meltdowns, and help kids focus on fun without constant negotiations.

We start with the candy plan—how many pieces, when to eat them, and how to handle the post‑walk check—so kids feel in control within clear boundaries. From there, we refresh street safety for dark routes and busy sidewalks, including crossing routines, visibility tips, and what to do if the group gets separated. We also rehearse polite trick‑or‑treating: saying trick‑or‑treat and thank you, respecting paths and yards, and navigating the infamous “take one” bowl. These small scripts give kids confidence and reduce the need for on‑the‑spot corrections.

Finally, we center joy. A quick breath, a gentle tone, and a simple family tradition—like pizza after the route or a cozy cocoa and candy sort—shift the night from candy chaos to connection. With a handful of clear expectations and a focus on fun, Halloween becomes easier for parents and more memorable for kids. If this guide helps your night run smoother, follow the show, share it with a friend who’s mapping their route, and leave a review to tell us your favorite family tradition.

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Think focus is just willpower? We challenge that idea with a clear, evidence-based guide to ADHD that bridges home, school, and the doctor’s office. I walk through what changed from ADD to ADHD, why girls and adults are often missed, and how interest-driven attention can make games feel easy while homework feels impossible. You’ll hear why that pattern is normal for an ADHD brain and how to design tasks that are more engaging, structured, and doable.

We also get honest about treatment. I share when medication can help a child become available for learning, how behavioral strategies build lasting habits, and why the best outcomes often come from combining both. From visual schedules and movement breaks to daily report cards and short feedback loops, we map practical steps that teachers and parents can put in place without turning home into a battleground. Along the way, we address a tough truth: untreated ADHD can lead to peer rejection and a damaging story of being the “bad kid.” Early intervention can change that trajectory and protect a child’s confidence.

If you’ve wondered why a bright child melts down over simple routines, or if you’re an adult realizing these patterns sound familiar, this conversation offers a starting point you can trust. We highlight resources from Florida International University’s ADHD programs, discuss how to talk with your physician or pediatrician, and lay out what to track as you try supports or a careful medication trial. Join us, share this with someone who needs it, and help replace shame with understanding and action. If this helped, follow the show, leave a quick review, and tell us the biggest ADHD myth you want debunked next.

Here is the link to the TEDx Talk I referenced by Dr. Katie Hart - https://youtu.be/G5zQULkVuiQ

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.

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What if your most explosive moments as a mother aren't failures, but crucial messages your mind and body are sending? Licensed Professional Counselor Nicole McNelis returns to unpack the powerful truth behind maternal rage - that overwhelming anger isn't a character flaw but a rational response to impossible expectations and unmet needs.

"Mom rage is not a meltdown, it's a message," McNelis explains, offering a refreshing perspective that removes shame from these difficult experiences. Drawing from her clinical practice and research, she identifies the two primary triggers behind maternal rage: compromised needs and violated expectations. When mothers consistently sacrifice sleep, personal boundaries, and self-care while facing unrealistic standards of maternal perfection, rage becomes an inevitable warning signal that something must change.

The conversation explores how social media complicates motherhood by presenting idealized versions of parenting alongside oversimplified advice. Parenting trends like "gentle parenting" often get misinterpreted as requiring mothers to constantly prioritize children's needs while suppressing their own emotions - creating a perfect storm for resentment and eventual emotional explosion. McNellis advocates approaching these trends with "a lens that is both compassionate and critical," evaluating strategies based on what actually works for your unique family rather than forcing approaches that consistently fail.

Most powerfully, McNelis suggests that maternal rage can become "a catalyst for positive change" when properly understood. By listening to these emotional signals with self-compassion instead of judgment, mothers can identify necessary adjustments in family systems and personal boundaries. Just as McNelis describes embracing the possibility of rejection in her professional growth, mothers can approach parenting with a willingness to experiment, fail, learn, and grow - replacing the pursuit of perfection with the more sustainable practice of authentic presence.

Ready to transform how you understand your most difficult emotional moments? Listen now and discover how your anger might actually be your wisdom speaking.

Here are additional resources from Nicole:

https://postpartum.net/mom-rage-causes-ways-to-cope-and-reasons-for-hope/

https://www.instagram.com/therapist.mom.collective/

Research Study for Maternal Health Professionals on Maternal Rage: We are interested in learning more about attitudes and experiences working with maternal rage as a presenting concern. If you are a maternal health professional, please consider taking our survey to share your experiences so we can develop better training and interventions to address this common issue. Survey link: https://redcap.pcom.edu/surveys/?s=R8KEE48KCXFFLW9R. If you have any questions, please contact Dr. Alexa Bonacquisti at alexabo@pcom.edu. Thank you!

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.

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