The Wahala of Connection: How Attachment Styles Show Up Everywhere

Attachment styles shape how people connect in friendships, dating, marriage, and even at work. Formed in childhood, these patterns often follow into adulthood, influencing how we handle closeness, conflict, and trust.

This week’s conversation explores the four main attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and the ways they show up in everyday relationships. From the reliable friend to the clingy partner, from the ghoster to the self-sabotager, each style carries its own strengths and struggles.

The discussion also highlights the real-life wahala these patterns can cause, from over-texting to pulling away from good partners, and offers practical steps for moving toward healthier, more secure connections. The reminder is clear: attachment style is not a life sentence, but a map that can guide growth and change.

Also in this episode: a Praise Report honoring Ekpenyong Brown Otu, also known as Mixmaster Brown, for his courage in running for Fulshear City Council; and a spotlight on why ChatGPT is this week’s “What We’re Digging.”