In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes uses Proverbs 31:4 to explore the difference between legalistic rules and convictions formed through a personal relationship with God. She shares how her strict no-alcohol policy during her first marriage unintentionally taught her kids that alcohol itself was sinful—and how those rules collapsed during her divorce. A conversation with her eight-year-old son about two Christian families with opposite views on alcohol helped her teach that conviction should come from God, not pressure from others. Eileen also discusses her journey with yoga, how seeking God’s guidance led to healing after hip surgery, and why forcing convictions damages relationships. She explains that true transformation happens when conviction becomes internal, and while some biblical instructions are clear, others require seeking God personally.

Listen to The Unsidelined Life Podcast: Website | Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube

Follow Eileen Noyes: LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook | Website | Books

In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes completes her three-part series on Proverbs 31:3 by addressing wives directly about their responsibility to protect their kings rather than ruin them. After covering how to raise sons and daughters in previous episodes, Eileen tackles the often-overlooked reality that wives can become the very women who destroy their husbands through disrespect, constant criticism, and approaching conflict like a man instead of a woman. She gets vulnerable about putting immense pressure on her husband Michael after remarrying, expecting perfection because all eyes were watching, and how a conversation about his role as provider for 15 kids completely shifted her perspective. Eileen shares five specific strategies starting with prayer, including the story of a marriage conference exercise where she prayed over her husband's eyes and he woke up seeing her differently. She breaks down why words of respect matter more than wives realize, how to listen to simple requests like cold drinks and organic berries, and why approaching your husband with vulnerability instead of toughness changes everything. Eileen also addresses the physical aspect, explaining that confidence and availability matter far more than perfect weight or appearance, and how honor and respect are the biggest components of sex appeal in marriage.

Discover why the wife who builds her king up is the ultimate protection against women who would tear him down.

Follow or Subscribe to The Unsidelined Life Podcast:

Website: https://theunsidelinedlife.com

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unsidelined-life/id1759219138

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/54xYIHjkcIn2wbFFSExkxE

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheUnsidelinedLife

Follow Eileen Noyes:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eileenpnoyes/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eileenpnoyes/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eileennoyes

Website: https://www.ladybellator.com

Books:https://www.amazon.com/Eileen-Noyes/e/B0CXD2Y4RP

Connect with Lady Bellator:

Website:https://www.ladybellator.com

Lady Bellator Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/lady.bellator/

Free Community:https://www.ladybellator.com/calltoarms

In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes tackles the flip side of Proverbs 31:3 by addressing how to raise daughters who refuse to become the kind of woman the Bible warns against. As a mother of eight with one biological daughter, Eileen gets honest about the challenges of raising girls in a culture that celebrates exposure over mystery and attention over respect. She shares five specific strategies for protecting your daughter's heart and identity, starting with building a relationship strong enough to have age-appropriate conversations about topics her own mother never discussed with her. Eileen reveals what happened when a football player confronted her about how she was presenting herself in college and how that wake-up call now shapes the wisdom she gives young women. She explains why being the example matters more than rules, teaching daughters to be classy and set apart rather than attention-seeking. Eileen breaks down the specific traits she's cultivating in her 11-year-old daughter and why mystery, modesty, and confidence attract the right kind of man while revealing everything attracts the wrong kind. She also addresses the father's role in this equation, sharing how she guides her husband Michael to love their daughter in ways that protect her from seeking male validation elsewhere.

In this episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes tackles Proverbs 31:3 which warns sons to keep themselves sexually pure and not waste their strength on women who ruin kings. As a mother of seven boys, Eileen shares her heart and practical strategies for raising sons who can see through seduction in a culture that praises women for showing skin and celebrates promiscuity. She breaks down five ways to be the mom your sons want to talk to about difficult topics like pornography, relationships, and sexual purity, starting with transparency about who you were before Christ so they never think you won't understand their struggles. Eileen shares her powerful prayer that love not be awakened in her sons until God brings the right person, and explains how she speaks Proverbs 6 and 7 over them from toddler-hood to help them recognize the characteristics of wayward women. She boldly redefines the term MILF as "Mom I'd Like to Follow," explaining her desire to be the kind of mother her sons' girlfriends and future wives want to emulate rather than compete with. Drawing from Life Skills International principles about unhealthy mother-son bonds, Eileen discusses preparing herself emotionally for the day when her sons' wives become their priority, and shares practical ways she's building relationships with potential future daughters-in-law while her boys are still young.

In this concluding episode of the Proverbs 31:2 series on The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes shifts focus from what to say to what NOT to say to your children. She shares four critical boundaries every parent needs to maintain: never bash their father in front of them (even in divorce), never speak negativity over them (including seemingly obvious statements like "you're so irresponsible"), never place emotional burdens on them they weren't meant to carry (like making your son your emotional support when your marriage struggles), and never compare them to siblings or use performance-based labels. Eileen vulnerably shares how she speaks healing over sickness instead of claiming illness, explaining her supernatural approach to staying healthy as a busy mom who can't afford to get sick. She addresses the dangerous mother-son bond that develops when women seek emotional connection from their sons instead of their husbands, using NFL examples of grown men who haven't properly left their mothers. Drawing from Life Skills International principles, Eileen explains how to find the positive trait in every seemingly negative characteristic your child displays, teaching parents to speak life by reframing "strong-willed" as "determined" and "annoying" as "detailed and organized."

Learn the four statements that damage your children's hearts and discover what to say instead that builds them up and protects their identity.

In this continuation episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes shares actual stories from her parenting journey that demonstrate the four principles discussed last week in action. She reveals how being pregnant during her escape from an abusive marriage created a peaceful environment for her unborn son despite external chaos, proving that a mother's spiritual and emotional state directly impacts her child's development even in the womb. Eileen vulnerably shares how she unknowingly told her young son to "fend for himself" when overwhelmed with multiple children, then later had to sit him down at age two to apologize and speak truth into his subconscious mind, witnessing an immediate shift in his demeanor. She opens up about how her ex-husband’s words led their sons to believe they were somehow to blame for the divorce, and how she helped them heal by guiding them back to the truth. Eileen also discusses releasing her oldest son from the false life commandment that he had to be the man of the house after his father left, and shares how she's nurturing each child's unique bent - from the organized son who catalyzed her whole house cleaning journey to the craftsman son who builds furniture to her creative daughter who sees possibility in trash. This episode provides concrete examples that bring the theoretical principles to life, showing parents exactly what speaking truth and breaking life commandments looks like in real family situations.

Hear real stories that show you exactly how to apply these principles with your own children, regardless of their age or your family circumstances.

Follow or Subscribe to The Unsidelined Life Podcast:

Website:https://theunsidelinedlife.com

Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unsidelined-life/id1759219138

Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/54xYIHjkcIn2wbFFSExkxE

Follow Eileen Noyes:

LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/eileenpnoyes/

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/eileenpnoyes/

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/eileennoyes

Website:https://www.ladybellator.com

Books:https://www.amazon.com/Eileen-Noyes/e/B0CXD2Y4RP

Connect with Lady Bellator:

Website:https://www.ladybellator.com

Lady Bellator Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/lady.bellator/

Free Community:https://www.ladybellator.com/calltoarms

In this continuation episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes shares four life-changing principles from Life Skills International that transformed how she parents her eight children through divorce, trauma, and everyday challenges. Drawing from her seven years as a facilitator, Eileen reveals the single most important truth every parent needs to understand: all kids take responsibility for all losses all the time, meaning children naturally blame themselves for divorce, death, abuse, and family dysfunction even when it has nothing to do with them. She explains how life commandments - statements like "you're stupid" or "eat everything on your plate" - become permanent programming that follows children into adulthood, and shares her own life commandment about appearance that stemmed from overhearing one comment her father made to her mother. Eileen discusses the grammar stage of classical education and why the early years are critical for planting truth in children's subconscious minds through songs, scripture, and repetition. She also addresses the biblical principle of training children in their bent, explaining how parents often squash their children's natural gifting by trying to make them replicate the parent's interests or accomplishments. This episode provides deep psychological and spiritual insights for parents who want to understand what's happening beneath the surface of their children's behaviors and help them process difficult life experiences with truth rather than lies.

Discover why your children might be carrying guilt and shame for things that aren't their fault and learn how to speak truth into their subconscious minds.

Follow or Subscribe to The Unsidelined Life Podcast:

Website: https://theunsidelinedlife.com

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unsidelined-life/id1759219138

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/54xYIHjkcIn2wbFFSExkxE

Follow Eileen Noyes:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eileenpnoyes/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eileenpnoyes/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eileennoyes

Website: https://www.ladybellator.com

Books:https://www.amazon.com/Eileen-Noyes/e/B0CXD2Y4RP

Connect with Lady Bellator:

Website:https://www.ladybellator.com

Lady Bellator Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/lady.bellator/

Free Community:https://www.ladybellator.com/calltoarms

In this vulnerable solo episode of The Unsidelined Life, Eileen Noyes tackles every parent's most haunting question: "Have you ever said anything to your kids that you regret?" Drawing from Proverbs 31:2 which asks "What my son, what shall I advise you?" Eileen shares five transformative principles that have guided her through raising eight children ranging from age 7 to 22. From navigating difficult conversations about their father's abandonment to handling everyday disputes between siblings, Eileen demonstrates how seeking God's guidance in the moment can prevent the regret that comes from reactive parenting. She addresses the challenge of age-appropriate conversations, the importance of not freaking out when your children make mistakes, and how to create a safe environment where kids feel comfortable being honest about their struggles. Drawing from her experience during her divorce and cult-like situation, Eileen shows how staying anchored in Christ enabled her children to maintain their faith despite devastating circumstances. This episode provides practical tools for Christian parents who want to parent like God parents - with patience, wisdom, and unconditional love that speaks to behaviors rather than attacking character. Eileen also discusses the role of the Holy Spirit as counselor in parenting decisions and shares real-life examples of age-appropriate conversations with her college-aged children about drinking and other challenging topics.