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An unprocessed wound shows up as control, people-pleasing, blaming or shut-down in relationship situations. It's the spiralling in hurt when you think you don't matter to them. The doubting yourself and your worth. Or what keeps you from letting someone in.

The key to healing relationship wounds at the root is to feel what you're most afraid of feeling. But the how is important. Most of us drown in the stories (feeling through our head) or have protection layers that stop us from getting to the bottom layer.

In this episode, we look at:

• How you know you have an unprocessed wound
• How to tell if it's your wound or their behaviour that is painful
• Why feeling hasn't changed anything before
• How to feel in a way that heals

Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience?

👉 Join Feel To Heal — my brand new 21-day training with daily, embodied practices to meet hurt with love, and transform it into secure connection.

Last spots for the 2026 power journeys:
Mexico January 4-11 (everyone)
Spain April 12-18 (women)

The online programs:

Join me in Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550)

The Embodied Relationship Academy - the full journey into secure relating and leading from love (high-touch coaching and dojo from €370/month)

Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

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There’s a lot of dating advice out there saying the “right” love should feel calm, steady, and like home. No butterflies. No activation. No intensity. Just safety.

But love is not meant to keep you comfortable. Love is disruptive. It opens the rooms inside of you that haven’t been met yet. It asks you to expand, to feel more, to grow. Nervous system regulation isn’t the end goal. It’s the ground you stand on, so you have the capacity to actually live, feel, and love fully.

In this episode, we look at attraction as a guide rather than a problem. We debunk the idea that if you feel activated, you must be trauma-bonding or doing something wrong. There is wisdom in what draws you toward someone. The invitation is to learn how to work with it.

Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience?

👉 Join Feel To Heal — my brand new 21-day training with daily, embodied practices to meet hurt with love, and transform it into secure connection.

Last spots for the 2026 power journeys:
Mexico January 4-11 (everyone)
Spain April 12-18 (women)

The online programs:

Join me in Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550)

The Embodied Relationship Academy - the full journey into secure relating and leading from love (high-touch coaching and dojo from €370/month)

Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

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What happens when you ask your partner for reassurance, comfort, or safety — and instead of bringing you closer, it pushes them away?

In this episode, I take you deeper into the classic question from Ep 130, “Is It Me or Them?” We’ll explore why our nervous system reverts to child–parent dynamics in moments of fear, how to recognize when a younger wounded part is activated, and what it looks like to hold yourself instead of making your partner responsible for your sense of safety. Without abandoning your values or settling for crumbs.

You’ll walk away with practical insights for discerning between wounds and values, communicating from a mature place, and staying in the relational dojo long enough to turn conflict into intimacy.

Check out these related episodes:
Ep 130: Is It Me Or Them
Ep 187: Jealousy As Wisdom

Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience?

👉 Join Feel To Heal — my brand new 21-day training with daily, embodied practices to meet hurt with love, and transform it into secure connection.

Last spots for the 2026 power journeys:
Mexico January 4-11 (everyone)
Spain April 12-18 (women)

The online programs:

Join me in Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550)

The Embodied Relationship Academy - the full journey into secure relating and leading from love (high-touch coaching and dojo from €370/month)

Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷