The Truth About Female Desire, Libido & Pleasure with Dr. Diane Mueller

In this powerful and eye-opening episode of Sincerely, Self, Lexi sits down with Dr. Diane Mueller — board-certified sexologist, double doctorate holder, national speaker, and best-selling author — to break the silence around female pleasure, libido, and sexual wellness.

Dr. Diane shares her deeply personal journey into sexology, which began with chronic vulvar pain that conventional medicine couldn’t explain or heal. What ultimately changed everything? Pleasure — a concept many women are taught to suppress or feel shame around.

Together, Lexi and Dr. Diane dive into:

• What libido actually is — and how to know when it’s truly “low”

• The critical difference between desire and arousal (and why this matters so much for women)

• Why women’s sexuality works differently than men’s — especially in long-term relationships

• How stress, hormones, cycles, and mental load impact women’s sex drive

• The myth that passion must fade over time

• Why pleasure isn’t indulgent — it’s essential for health, resilience, and connection

• The importance of women learning their own bodies and communicating their needs

• How self-pleasure and partner exploration can heal, empower, and reconnect

• How to talk about sex without shame, blame, or hurt feelings

Dr. Diane also introduces her newly released book Want to Want It, a guide designed to help long-term couples rebuild intimacy, reignite passion, and strengthen communication — without shame, porn, or pressure.

This episode is honest, educational, and deeply validating for anyone who’s ever wondered:
“Is something wrong with me… or have I just never been taught the truth?”

Whether you’re single, partnered, curious, overwhelmed, or craving deeper connection — this conversation will shift how you think about pleasure forever.

Learn more on Dr. Diane:

• want to want it: wanttowantit.com
• labido quiz: labidoquiz.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc?igsh=MXFqOXBhM2czdzdndQ==

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