In this episode of The Resilience Movement, I’m joined by Toby Whittington – an advocate, academic, and coach whose diverse life experience has shaped his powerful work in relational wellness. With over three decades of self-employment across creative, charitable, and sustainability-focused industries, Toby’s journey took a deeply personal turn following his diagnosis with Klinefelter’s Syndrome (47 XXY). Rather than viewing this as a limitation, Toby reframed his experience into a path of self-acceptance, later embracing his identity as a proud intersex person.

Today, he’s an accredited sexologist, a relationship coach, and a master’s student in counselling, using both lived and scholarly insight to guide others in forming Whole-Person Relationships.

We explore:

✨ What it means to be in a Whole-Person Relationship – and why this framework is vital in today’s disconnected world

✨ How Toby’s diagnosis became a catalyst for deeper self-love, identity integration, and emotional resilience

✨ The limiting beliefs many carry around love, intimacy, and identity – and how Toby has challenged these, personally and professionally

✨ How trauma-informed coaching, academic theory, and real-world experience combine to support healing in relationships

✨ Why vulnerability is not a weakness, but a bridge to deeper connection with oneself and others

✨ Practical advice for those beginning their own journey toward relational authenticity and self-trust

This conversation is rich in insight for anyone navigating personal reinvention, emotional healing, or seeking a more compassionate approach to connection. Whether you're beginning your healing journey or a seasoned practitioner looking to deepen your understanding of relational dynamics, Toby offers a grounded and integrative perspective that blends academic rigor with human warmth. 🔗 To connect with Toby or learn more about his work, you can find him at https://www.whole-person-relationships.com/ 🧡 As always, thank you for listening to The Resilience Movement. If this episode resonates with you, please leave a review and share it with someone you care about.

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The Resilience Movement is here to help you discover the tools, strategies, and mindset needed to build the life you deserve. It’s not just about resilience—it’s about uncovering your true self, fostering self-love and self-worth, and cultivating trust and belief in your ability to thrive. You have one life, so why not make it extraordinary?

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🎙️ Welcome to The Resilience Movement Podcast — I’m your host, Donna Moulds, and I’m so glad you’re here.

This podcast is about more than just “getting through” tough times — it’s about rising, rebuilding, and reclaiming the life you deserve. We’re here for the deep work — not surface-level positivity or quick fixes. Because when life knocks you down, you don’t need platitudes… you need tools, truth, and people who’ve walked the path.

Resilience isn’t something you either have or don’t — it’s something you build, moment by moment, choice by choice.

And today, we’re leaning into a conversation that’s long overdue — a raw, honest look at men’s mental health, emotional well-being, and what it really means for a man to take the lead in his own life — not just in career or fitness or finance — but internally.

And to help us unpack this, I’m joined by someone who walks this talk every day.

He’s a certified coach, a straight-shooter, and someone I deeply admire for the way he holds space for men to come home to themselves — with clarity, courage, and compassion.

Please welcome to The Resilience Movement, Stephen Cole — the founder of Emotional Wisdom and a powerful voice in the movement to change the way men see themselves and each other.

Lets Talk Mens Wellbeing, Relationships with Steve Cole - Emotional Wisdom

In this episode, we’ll explore Stephen’s personal story — what led him to coach men, and why this work matters now more than ever.

We’ll talk about the silent weight many men carry — the pressure to perform, to provide, to hold it all together — and the cost of never being taught how to process, feel, or express what’s really going on beneath the surface.

Stephen shares insight into the emotional barriers many men face, how he creates safety in his coaching spaces, and what it looks like when a man finally gives himself permission to be both strong and soft, capable and vulnerable.

We also talk legacy — how this inner work transforms not only men’s lives, but how they show up in fatherhood, in their relationships, and in the impact they leave behind.

If you’re a man who’s been pushing through, or someone who loves one — this episode is for you.

Let’s dive in.

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If you're ready to create a better life and face challenges with confidence rather than being overwhelmed by adversity, you’re in the right place. Hosted by Donna Moulds, The Resilience Movement draws on Donna’s wealth of experience in overcoming adversity, pushing beyond limits, and emerging stronger, more confident, and full of purpose and passion for life.

The Resilience Movement is here to help you discover the tools, strategies, and mindset needed to build the life you deserve. It’s not just about resilience—it’s about uncovering your true self, fostering self-love and self-worth, and cultivating trust and belief in your ability to thrive. You have one life, so why not make it extraordinary?

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🎙️ Episode Title: Don’t Let Your Story Keep You Small
Host: Donna Moulds | The Resilience Movement

Have you ever felt like your past disqualified you from becoming who you truly are? That your mistakes, your pain, your story — somehow made you less than? In this raw and reflective episode, Donna shares her personal journey through divorce, family estrangement, guilt, and the deep process of self-forgiveness.

She opens up about the shame that shaped her identity and the moments that triggered a shift — including a life-changing quote from Brené Brown and learning to embrace gratitude in its simplest form.

✨ Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is let go of the story that tells us we’re not enough.

In this conversation, you’ll hear:

• Why shame and guilt can be the most debilitating emotions we carry
• How generational expectations shaped Donna’s early beliefs about marriage and failure
• The moment she realised healing had to start with her — not with everyone else
• The quiet power of gratitude to soften pain, even when life still feels messy
• Why forgiveness — especially self-forgiveness — is not for others, but for you

This episode is a reminder that healing isn’t a straight line, and you don’t need to have it all together to begin. Your story doesn’t make you small. It makes you wise. And your voice just might be the light someone else is waiting for.

💬 If this touched something in you, I’d love to hear from you.
Message me, share your story, or let me know what part resonated.

Until next time — keep softening where you can, and never let your story keep you small.

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If you're ready to create a better life and face challenges with confidence rather than being overwhelmed by adversity, you’re in the right place. Hosted by Donna Moulds, The Resilience Movement draws on Donna’s wealth of experience in overcoming adversity, pushing beyond limits, and emerging stronger, more confident, and full of purpose and passion for life.

The Resilience Movement is here to help you discover the tools, strategies, and mindset needed to build the life you deserve. It’s not just about resilience—it’s about uncovering your true self, fostering self-love and self-worth, and cultivating trust and belief in your ability to thrive. You have one life, so why not make it extraordinary?

Follow and subscribe to join the movement:

🌐 Website: theresiliencemovement.com.au
🎧 Apple Podcasts: Listen on Apple
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