The Real Reason You’re More Careful Now (And Why That’s Good)

In this episode of Fiercely Unfiltered, Kelly Renee explores the evolution of confidence throughout different stages of life. From childhood innocence to the trials of adulthood, Kelly examines how confidence shifts as we grow older, become more self-aware, and navigate life's challenges. She shares insights into how confidence doesn't disappear with age but rather matures and becomes more selective. This episode highlights the importance of discernment, courage, and patience in reclaiming confidence at every stage of life, teaching us that sometimes the bravest thing we can do is slow down and listen. As we face life’s obstacles, Kelly emphasizes that confidence is no longer about rushing through decisions or proving ourselves to others; it’s about understanding timing, staying true to our values, and learning from the past. Kelly’s message is clear: confidence, when informed by experience, is powerful, steady, and unshakable. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re more careful now, this episode will show you that it’s not a sign of weakness but an evolution into wisdom and strength. Key Takeaways Confidence evolves, from innocence in childhood to certainty in adolescence, and to discernment in adulthood. Discernment is about listening to your inner wisdom and not rushing into decisions due to fear or external pressure. Quiet confidence often comes after experiencing pain and learning from mistakes, offering steadiness and balance. Confidence doesn’t disappear. It matures, becomes more aware, and is selective in the choices we make. In This Episode [00:00] Introduction [01:42] When you're a kid, confidence is effortless...because you're unaware. [02:06] How opinions and judgments from others begin to shape confidence. [03:16] Confidence doesn’t usually disappear all at once. It gets chipped away. [04:03] How life experiences like trust and loss affect confidence in adulthood. [04:49] Confidence returns with a new sense of certainty in young adulthood. [05:42] How loss, betrayal, and trauma disrupt certainty and force a reevaluation of self-trust. [06:32] Midlife brings a quieter, more selective confidence rooted in experience. [07:28] Exploring the fine line between fear and wisdom when making decisions. [10:19] Learning to wait for the right moment and prepare for future growth. [11:39] Confidence stops being about belief and starts being about recognizing patterns. [13:13] Reflecting on the lasting nature of confidence that comes from informed decision-making. Notable Quotes [04:49] “Confidence doesn't disappear all at once. It gets chipped away.” [05:12] “You think you know who you are. You think you know what you want.” [07:28] “Fear and wisdom don’t announce themselves differently. They often use the same language.” [09:13] “Sometimes the most important action is quiet...It looks like showing up consistently.” [12:48] “Sometimes confidence isn’t loud because it’s busy listening...It knows timing matters.” Resources and Links Fiercely Unfiltered Fiercely Unfiltered with Kelly Renee Kelly Renee Instagram Facebook Website