The Real Reason I Reached Out: A Narcissist’s Confession

Have you ever received a text from an ex-partner saying they "miss you" or "saw something that reminded them of you" just when you were finally moving on? In this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock—a self-aware, diagnosed narcissist—takes the mask off to explain the cold reality behind the "Hoover."

Most survivors believe these messages are a sign of reflection or regret. But in this raw confessional, Lee explains why he used to reach out, and it wasn’t because of love. It was a calculated move to check "if the door was still unlocked."

In this episode, we break down:

• The "Nostalgia Trap": How narcissists use your shared memories as a weapon to bypass your boundaries.

• Supply vs. Connection: Why a reach-out usually means the narcissist’s current "supply" is low, not that they’ve changed.

• The Boredom Factor: The truth about why "boredom" is a primary motivator for a narcissist to contact an ex.

• Protecting Your Peace: Why replying to a hoover—even with anger—gives the narcissist exactly what they want.

If you are struggling to maintain "No Contact" or wondering if your ex has finally changed, this episode is the reality check you need to stay strong.

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