The Power of Letting Go | Healing Anxious Attachment Through Faith

In this episode, Alveena shares the quiet moment she emotionally checked out, not out of anger but exhaustion. She reflects on the psychology behind letting go, exploring how anxious attachment, fear of abandonment and the urge to control outcomes show up in our relationships, our parenting and our faith.

Drawing from attachment theory, cognitive diffusion and spiritual teachings, she explains how releasing control is not giving up. It is reclaiming peace. Through personal reflection, psychology and faith, Alveena shows how letting people think what they want and choosing your own response can bring you back to yourself.

This episode is for anyone who overexplains, over functions or carries the emotional weight of trying to be understood.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Emotional checking out is often a protective response, not drama.
  
  
• Anxious attachment forms from unpredictability, shaping adult fears of abandonment and overexplaining.
  
  
• Control becomes a survival strategy when we feel responsible for every outcome.
  
  
• Faith teaches balance. Do your part, then surrender what is not yours to manage.
  
  
• Letting go is what creates the mental space needed for creativity, healing and growth.
  
  
• In parenting, hovering can inhibit resilience and accountability.
  
  
• The Release and Reclaim framework helps redirect energy inward instead of outward.
  
  

BEST MOMENTS

“I stopped explaining myself. I stopped defending myself. I was done.”

“You do not control the perception. You only control your response.”

“Anxious attachment is not clinginess. It is a survival strategy.”

“Do your part. Tie your camel. But do not try to control what is not yours.”

“Letting go brought me back to myself. Suddenly there was space again.”

“Control is not love. Sometimes trust means letting people misunderstand you.”

LINKS

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alveena-salim-a98abb49/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/withalveena/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@withAlveena

ABOUT THE HOST

Alveena is a psychology MSc student, writer and seeker exploring the intersection of mental health, psychology and Islamic spirituality. Her work blends academic insight with lived experience to explore identity, belonging and healing. Through her writing and podcast, she shares personal reflections that bridge science and spirituality, encouraging honest self inquiry and wholehearted living. Grounded yet introspective, she invites others to slow down, reflect and reconnect with who they truly are.

Thank you for listening. If something in an episode touched you, made you think, or just hit different… I’d love to hear it. Alveena