The Post-Affair Marriage: Who Broke It? Who Should Fix It?

When a marriage is damaged by infidelity, two questions emerge: Who broke it? And who has to fix it? The answers are rarely as simple as we’d like. In this episode, licensed counselor Tim Tedder challenges some of the most common assumptions about why affairs happen and what recovery requires.

Are affairs caused by something missing in the marriage? Was the relationship already broken before the betrayal? Can infidelity occur even in a stable, healthy marriage? And if a couple chooses to stay together, who is responsible for rebuilding?

By examining three broad patterns—the stressed marriage, the severed marriage, and the stable marriage—Tim separates responsibility for the affair from responsibility for the condition of the relationship. He explores why accountability for betrayal is one-sided, but repairing a marriage is not. This episode invites listeners to move beyond blame and into a more mature understanding of healing, responsibility, and growth after infidelity.

LINKS and EXTRAS

Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/045

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