Soft life doesn't mean no difficulties friend

In this no-fluff, kick-in-the-pants episode of The Pleasure Priority Podcast, Amber breaks down the real reason you need to do hard things—and how resilience is a skill, not a personality trait. From the secret sexism of city trees to the misunderstood "soft life" trend, we explore why challenges are inevitable, but suffering doesn't have to be.If you’ve ever told yourself “this is too hard,” this episode will lovingly call you in—and remind you that you’re stronger (and more capable) than you think.

We cover:

💪 Why you’re not too fragile for hard things

🔁 How resilience actually works

🌱 The difference between safety and stagnation

✨The only way out is through. Let’s go.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:19 The Hidden Causes of Allergies

02:53 The Importance of Resilience

15:25 Building Confidence Through Action

27:24 Final Thoughts and Announcements

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In this episode, host Coach Amber shares a self-trust and embodiment hack that shatters imposter syndrome. She shares her own struggles with other methods including the future you exercises and how she edited them to resonate and actually be helpful for her now. She explains this process and shows you how to make it your own. Amber shares insights from one of her own recent sessions and how unresolved emotions and past experiences, including feelings of guilt, unworthiness, and hopelessness, have blocked her progress and how this hack has impacted them. Listen and learn to how you too can overcome imposter syndrome by building self-trust through timeline skips

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Welcome to The Pleasure Priority Podcast

00:12 The Future You Exercise

00:48 Struggles with Embodying Future Self

02:24 Connecting with Past and Future Selves

03:19 Energy Healing Session Insights

03:35 Unresolved Emotions and Heart Walls

05:56 Lessons from Childhood and Guilt

13:03 Sending Trust through the Timeline

16:46 Manifestation and Transformation

18:16 Conclusion and Next Steps

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In this episode, Amber delves into the realities and implications of reality TV dating shows, specifically focusing on the latest season of 'Temptation Island.' She critiques the show for capitalizing on entertainment over everything by promoting harmful stereotypes and predatory tropes, such as the 'boys will be boys' mentality, the double standards between men and women and how these shows are particularly detrimental to black women, who are often marginalized and fetishized. Amber analyzes the behavior of various participants exploring themes of infidelity, emotional intelligence manipulation, and societal expectations, as well as the producers involvement and intention in manipulating situations for drama and ratings. While the show and shows like it are incredibly entertaining, they also serve to normalize a continuous lowering of the bar when it comes to expectations of romantic relationships. Amber concludes by reflecting on the broader implications of seeking love through reality TV and advises listeners on healthier alternatives for finding meaningful relationships.

TIMESTAMPS:00:00 Welcome to The Pleasure Priority Podcast

00:11 The Reality of Reality TV: Temptation Island

01:43 Boys Will Be Boys: Gender Expectations

02:52 Double Standards in Relationships

03:25 The Role of Producers in Reality TV

08:21 Toxic Masculinity and Emotional Manipulation

20:53 The Struggles of Black Women on Reality TV

30:29 Final Thoughts and Advice

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In this episode, Amber explores the topic of self-judgment and how it hinders personal growth and goal attainment. Drawing from recent client conversations and psychological studies, Amber argues that self-judgment and self-criticism are learned behaviors that serves our oppressors more than they serves us. They are optional practices, not necessary or required to make change. We can choose differently and we can choose joy. Amber emphasizes the importance of self-celebration and joy in building as a necessary part of the process when we make change, noting that positive reinforcement is more effective and sustainable than fear and punishment. Amber encourages listeners to avoid self-beratement and instead adopt practices that motivate through love and intention, ultimately leading to more fulfilling and achievable outcomes.

TIMESTAMPS:00:00 Welcome to The Pleasure Priority Podcast

00:22 The Fear of Self-Judgment

02:08 The Illusion of Success Through Self-Punishment

03:28 Positive Conditioning vs. Negative Conditioning

04:12 The Power of Positive Reinforcement

06:21 Breaking the Cycle of Self-Judgment

09:49 Sustainable Motivation Through Joy

11:40 Taking Action Without Fear

17:47 Embracing Mistakes and Moving Forward

18:39 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement

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In this episode, Amber discusses her personal journey and evolving views on marriage, relationships, and monogamy as a happily divorced woman. She shares her early beliefs around love/relationships/marriage being equated to worthiness, wholeness, lovability, and the societal and systemic influences that reinforced these notions. She recounts her struggles with self-worth, especially as a black child in a PWIs, and the subsequent unhealthy relationships and toxic patterns that stemmed from these beliefs and insecurities.

The episode delves into Amber’s realizations over time and what she thinks about love and marriage now. She urgers listeners to understand that fulfilment doesn’t come from being in a relationship, it comes from the quality of the relationship you’re in and we have so much more control than we utilize to dictate the quality of our relationships. Amber emphasizes the importance of understanding personal needs, clear communication, and not settling for less than what you want, regardless of if you currently believe you deserve it or not.

She advocates for a broader perspective on love, highlighting that it can be abundant and found in various forms, not just within monogamous or romantic contexts. The goal is to encourage listeners to seek relationships that truly meet their needs without being confined by traditional societal expectations while working to eliminate the guilt and shame imposed when you don’t align with societal norms

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Welcome to The Pleasure Priority Podcast

01:06 Personal Reflections on Marriage and Divorce

05:47 The Impact of Societal Expectations

11:59 Redefining Love and Relationships

23:24 Embracing New Perspectives on Marriage

26:43 Final Thoughts

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In this episode, Amber breaks down the life hack of approaching new or scary things with the confidence and audacity of a cis-het white man. She explores questions around how this way of thinking became their default mindset and our rallying cry.

She explores how they created their own permission for delusional self belief at the expense of everyone else. Then she breaks down how you can adopt and utilize the fundamental truths behind these beliefs for your own benefit.

Amber highlights the transformative power of embodying this confident mindset, arguing that it allows people to realize their full potential and thrive a world built on systemic inequalities. Will you accept the challenge?

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Welcome to The Pleasure Priority Podcast

00:46 Embracing Unwavering Confidence

02:00 The Power of Self-Belief

02:51 Challenging Internalized Doubts

05:35 Adopting a New Mindset

08:58 Practical Applications and Challenges

11:14 Invitation to Share Your Journey

14:01 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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In this episode of The Pleasure Priority Podcast, Amber discusses the current FAFO (Fuck Around and Find Out) movement, emphasizing its relevance to Black women resting and self-care. The conversation reflects on the critical role black women have played in pushing social movements forward and the need for us to rest following the 92% turnout in recent U.S. elections that still didn't produce favorable results. The FAFO movement encourages black women to focus on self-care and allow others to take up the mantle of activism while we take the next four years to rest. Amber highlights various forms of rest, including physical, creative, mental, social, emotional, and sensory rest, as essential practices for resting intentionally ad sustaining well-being. In addition, the episode promotes National Day of Rest for Black Women on March 10th, honoring the legacy of Harriet Tubman, and invites listeners to join her for the Black Girl Burnout Society’s virtual event celebrating and discussing the National Day of Rest for Black Women on March 9th. Black women resting and prioritizing personal well-being are revolutionary acts that deserve to be honored and recognized.

TIMESTAMPS:00:00 Welcome

00:19 Understanding the FAFO Movement

00:52 Black Women's Role in Social Movements

01:41 The Call for Rest and Self-Care03:18 Honoring Harriet Tubman and National Day of Rest

04:31 Event Announcement: Black Girl Burnout Society

05:11 Embracing the FAFO Principle in Daily Life

09:34 Dealing with Disassociation and Desensitization

11:36 Prioritizing Self-Care and Rest

14:56 Types of Rest and How to Achieve Them

18:37 Responding to Criticism and Staying Focused

21:09 Practical Tips for Intentional Rest

23:59 The Revolution Will Not Be Televised

25:38 Conclusion

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In this episode of the Pleasure Priority Podcast, Amber revisits the 'Body Answers' exercise to help listeners differentiate between 'yes,' 'no,' and 'resistance' responses through physical sensations. By grounding themselves and conducting control tests and creating decision statements, listeners can cut through the noise of their brains and understand their body’s wisdom and input in decision making.

Amber shares personal examples, discusses the impact of brain versus body reactions, and highlights the importance of this practice for self-awareness and decision-making. She also announces a special buy-one-get-one-free offer for her coaching sessions in celebration of Black History Month, encouraging listeners to join her email list for early access and updates.

TIMESTAMPS:00:00 Introduction

00:19 Body Awareness

00:40 Body Answers Exercise

01:47 Control Statements for Yes and No

03:21 Decision Statements and Real-Time Examples

05:57 Understanding Resistance

08:51 Importance of Body-Brain Communication

10:37 Special Offer and Conclusion

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