The Person You Think You Are Doesn’t Exist (How To Correct Negative Self-Concept)

The person you see in your head when you think “me” probably isn’t you.

Most of us don’t perceive ourselves accurately—we see a distorted, unrealistically negative version. Not because it’s true… but because your brain is trying (and failing) to protect you from pain.

In this episode I explain “The Magnet”: the force that pulls your self-concept downward after experiences like rejection, failure, and embarrassment—so you’ll “reject yourself first” before the world can do it.

It’s a defense mechanism… but it comes with two brutal costs:

• You trade short, sharp pain for a lifetime of dull pain
• You start preemptively opting out of opportunities, connection, growth, and visibility

If you live with chronic self-criticism, low self-esteem, or an internal “lowlight reel” that plays on repeat… this episode will help you interrupt it.

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About me:

I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety.

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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.