The Pain of Hoping They’ll Change: Grief in Trauma Healing

It’s one thing to lose someone. It’s another to grieve the version of them that only ever existed through hope. If you've ever found yourself mourning the parent who never truly saw you, or feeling guilty for pulling away from someone then this conversation is for you.

In this video, I talk about the layers of grief that show up during the healing process, especially when it involves complex family dynamics. You’ll hear why grief and hope often sit side by side, and why making peace with both is such a tender, essential part of reclaiming yourself.

In this video, I talk about:

• How grief shows up in unexpected ways during trauma healing

• The heartbreak of holding onto hope for a parent who doesn’t choose you

• Grieving someone who’s still alive and what that really means

• Navigating moments when you want to reconnect, and how to honor those feelings with care

• Why support matters most when you feel pulled between hope and protection

There’s no perfect roadmap for this kind of grief, but you don’t have to walk it alone. If this resonates with you, I hope it reminds you that your feelings are valid and that setting boundaries doesn’t mean you’re giving up hope. It means you're choosing to protect your healing.

💬 I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Have you experienced this kind of grief in your journey?

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