From Lonely to Angry: Understanding Incels (And How Good Men Lose Their Way)
Some men don't start off angry. They start off lonely. Rejected. Invisible. Neglected in childhood.
But when the pain festers long enough, it turns into something darker: the incel mindset.
In this raw and unflinching episode, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari dive into one of the internet's most controversial subcultures — involuntary celibates (incels). These are men who want relationships but can't get them, and the frustration has curdled into isolation, shame, and sometimes rage.
But here's what most people miss: Incels share many traits with Nice Guys. Both crave connection yet fear rejection. Both seek approval from women and feel powerless when they don't get it. The difference? Nice Guys hide their resentment. Incels express it — just not face-to-face.
In this episode, we explore:
What incels actually are (and why this phenomenon is growing)
The mental health crisis: depression, anxiety, and isolation
Why some men didn't procreate throughout history (evolutionary psychology perspective)
How the internet created echo chambers that trap lonely men
Faisal's powerful story of coaching an incel — and what he learned
The victim mindset: Why identifying as "involuntarily celibate" keeps you stuck
The "black pill" belief system and incel terminology (Chads, Staceys, and nihilism)
How Nice Guys and incels differ: Hope vs. giving up
The generational shift: Why young men aren't pursuing relationships like they used to
Economic reality: When you can't afford independence, relationships feel impossible
Chuck's controversial take: Is sex really the answer? (Spoiler: No)
Why comparison culture and social media poison your soul
The trap of expecting life to hand you perfection
How resentment and victimhood become a prison
The hard truth? Being an incel isn't involuntary. It's a choice to stay stuck in resentment, victimhood, and isolation. There IS a path forward — but it requires rejecting the black pill, doing the work, and choosing growth over bitterness.

This isn't about attacking incels. It's about understanding how good men lose their way — and showing them there's another path. One that leads to connection, purpose, and power.

If you're stuck, isolated, or angry at the world — this episode is for you.
Like. Comment. Subscribe. And share this with someone who needs to know: You're not powerless. You're not doomed. There's a way out.
P.S. — Yes, we had technical difficulties with Faisal's internet. Chuck and Ari carried on like champions. And no, Chuck did NOT ruin sex for everyone... or did he?
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Why Jealousy Destroys Nice Guys (And How to Finally Stop It)
You see her laugh at another guy's joke. Your stomach tightens. Your mind spirals. You start checking her phone, stalking her social media, asking the same questions over and over.

And then comes the shame.
Jealousy doesn't just ruin relationships — it hijacks your entire life. And for Nice Guys? It hits harder than most.

In this raw and revealing episode, Faisal, Chuck, and Ari break down the real psychology behind jealousy — why it exists, why Nice Guys struggle with it more intensely, and how to stop letting it sabotage your love life.

In this episode, we dive deep into:
Why jealousy feels like an emotional prison you can't escape
The three fractures jealousy exposes: ego, emotional, and sexual
Real stories of jealousy gone wrong (including Faisal's polyamory experiment)

The dangerous projection: "If I don't trust myself, how can I trust her?"
Why trying to control your partner always backfires
The concept of "compersion" — can you actually rewire jealousy?
How polyamory sounds great in theory but rarely works in practice
The critical mistake: Selecting women with your fractured ego instead of your wise self
Why Nice Guys pick incompatible partners and then try to change them
The difference between healthy jealousy and destructive obsession (retroactive jealousy OCD)

How to know yourself well enough to choose the right partner

Here's the truth: Feeling jealous is normal. Even extreme jealousy is a natural response. But what you DO with it determines whether it destroys you — or strengthens you.

You can't convince your heart with your mind. You can't logic your way out of jealousy. But you CAN heal the fractures that make you vulnerable to it in the first place.

This isn't about becoming emotionless. It's about building the self-security, boundaries, and wisdom to handle jealousy without letting it control you.
Whether you're obsessing over her past, spiraling over who she's texting, or trapped in a cycle of control and shame — this episode will help you break free.
Stop suffering in silence. It's time to handle this.
Like. Comment. Subscribe. And share this with the guy who needs to stop letting jealousy run his life.

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Is It Dangerous to Be a Man? Why Masculinity Gets Criticized Instead of Celebrated
A coal miner shows up to his son's basketball game still covered in soot. He rushed straight from work to keep his promise. The photo goes viral — but not for the reason you'd think.
Instead of celebrating his dedication, the internet tears him apart. "Performative masculinity." "Virtue signaling." "He could've washed his face."
And that's when it hit us: No matter what a man does, someone will find a way to criticize it.
In this powerful conversation, Chuck, Faisal, and Ari unpack one of the most uncomfortable truths of modern masculinity: being a man feels like walking through a minefield of judgment, shame, and cancel culture.
In this episode, we explore:
Why showing up as yourself can get you canceled
The difference between how masculine and feminine energy "destroys" — and why it matters
How growing up in the feminist era made men feel guilty for being men
Why "mansplaining" and similar terms are designed to disempower
The schoolyard mentality of men vs. women hatred — and how to rise above it
What happens when you own your flaws instead of apologizing for them
How to develop thick skin in a world that loves tearing people down
Why empowering men doesn't come at women's expense
The truth? When men feel disempowered, nobody wins. Not men. Not women. Not society.
This isn't about playing victim. It's about standing up, owning who you are (flaws included), and refusing to collapse under criticism. It's about building connection instead of division.
Whether you're tired of walking on eggshells, struggling with shame about your masculinity, or just trying to figure out how to be a good man in a world that constantly tells you you're doing it wrong — this episode is for you.
It's time to stop apologizing for being a man.
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