In this episode, I share another clip from my conversation on Trusting After Trauma: Redefining Relationships After Parental Narcissistic Abuse, hosted by Pi Venus Winslow. In this segment, we explore why separating from a covertly narcissistic parent does not just feel frightening—it can feel deeply disloyal. We examine the guilt that surfaces when setting boundaries, the anger that often masks unresolved grief, and the unconscious loyalty that keeps many adult children emotionally stuck. The conversation underscores that healing is not about dramatic confrontation, but about reclaiming your internal world—strengthening your capacity to mentalize, recognizing what was internalized in childhood, and gradually separating your identity from the parent who shaped it.

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In this episode, I share a clip from my conversation on Trusting After Trauma: Redefining Relationships After Parental Narcissistic Abuse, hosted by Pi Venus Winslow. In this segment, we explore the complexities of covert narcissism and its impact on individuals who grew up with narcissistic parents. We discuss the subtle yet profound effects of covert narcissistic parenting, the importance of mentalization in understanding one's feelings, and the challenges of setting boundaries.

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open space where we explore psychoanalytic ideas together, answer your questions, and connect theory to real life experiences. Reserve your spot here

Next Meeting: May

Contact me Directly with observations, questions or comments:

thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com

You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:

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In this episode, we take a deeper look at a common misunderstanding about borderline personality organization: that the core struggle is simply a fear of abandonment. Drawing on the work of psychoanalyst Herbert Rey and his powerful metaphor of the “marsupial space,” we explore a more complicated psychological dilemma — the painful experience of never quite finding a relational space that feels both safe and free.

We explore: Why can closeness feel desperately needed one moment, yet suffocating the next? And why can even small moments of distance trigger fears of being pushed out or abandoned?

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open space where we explore psychoanalytic ideas together, answer your questions, and connect theory to real life experiences. Reserve your spot here

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Contact me Directly with observations, questions or comments:

thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com

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Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.com