The Most Important Love Language No One Talks About: Repair

Shownotes

• What most people don’t realize about the happiest couples

• The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma

• How to never get ghosted again

• What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important

• Why repair is an ongoing practice

• Four of the most important skills required to repair successfully

Bio

Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster.

She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya’s approach blends therapeutic depth with the practicality of coaching, teaching couples how to break destructive patterns, rebuild trust and come back together.

Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She also regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection.

Learn more about Baya’s work on Instagram @bayavoce.

Timestamps

00:00:45 - Guest introduction

00:03:56 - What led Baya to create a career out of relationship repair

00:08:37 - The social shift of perfection in coaching and leadership

00:10:39 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:12:01 - What people don’t realize about the happiest couples

00:14:35 - How a virtual world is challenging our human connections

00:19:08 - The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma

00:22:47 - A question to ask yourself if you think you’re in a manipulative relationship

00:27:20 - Why Baya chooses to stay in her marriage despite the challenges

00:31:14 - Most couples will experience disillusionment in their relationship

00:33:00 - A question to ask yourself to help shift out of victimization

00:33:47 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:39:29 - The end of a partner’s capacity teaches you how strong you are

00:45:51 - How to never get ghosted again

00:50:57 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:55:23 - Baya explains the third pole of a relationship

01:01:50 - What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important

01:04:29 - The difference between perception and perspective

01:12:58 - Why repair is an ongoing practice

01:15:17 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:18:30 - Four of the most important skills required to repair

01:28:49 - Conclusion