The Little Victim. A wounded part of ourselves that we often hold some disdain or frustration around and that we often try to forget we have and definitely attempt to keep out of the public eye.

One that can crop up when we're challenged, when we face disappointment or things don't go as we expect or hope they will.

Unfortunately this can mean days, weeks, months or even years where we give in to the "It's hopeless, why even bother?" story they tell and wake up wishing for that time back or weighed down by shame.

So how do we ensure that this part of us isn't in the driver's seat early enough to veer us off the road?

How do we tend to this part of ourselves in a healthier, more loving way than the typical ignore, bury or push through tactics?

And what is the value in understanding why they're present and trying to wrangle control in the first place?

This episode shares how I'm working with my Little Victim, what I've learned about her and what changes I'm making to keep her a tad quieter and in the back seat instead of driving and wreaking havoc.

One of the biggest sources of friction we tend to encounter as creatives is the chase for external validation and the frustration that we're still chasing external validation.

We give others the power of determining whether our art or our performance is "good" or "successful", which amplifies our experience of things like imposter syndrome and stage fright.

But what if there was an alternative to outsourcing the seal of approval?

There is. But first you need to figure out what it is that you even LIKE (which can be a challenge when you've never asked yourself that question).