When it comes to “getting to know ourselves,” we talk about mindfulness, creativity, career… basically everything except sex. But as Dr. Juliana Hauser argues, sexuality might be the most direct doorway into who we really are. In this episode, she takes us past the performance of “being sexy” into the raw territory of authenticity, agency, and connection.

Dr. Juliana has spent over two decades helping people claim their own sexual agency. She’s a counselor and family therapist with a PhD in Counseling Education, a TEDx speaker on agency, and creator of the Revealed course on holistic sexuality. Her work shows up in therapy rooms, media outlets, and classrooms… and as of today (🥳) in her brand new book: A New Position on Sex: A Guide to Greater Sexual Confidence, Pleasure, and Authenticity

In this Episode, We talk about:

* Why so many of us are trapped in “performative sexy” mode

* How to tell the difference between a “yuck” and a “yum” in your body

* How sexuality is central to self-awareness, agency, and connection

* How shame and culture block authentic sexual expression and what it takes to unlearn them

The adventure

Dr. Juliana guides us through a simple touch practice: four different kinds of touch on your own forearm. With each one, notice: does your body say yuck or yum? It’s a playful way to start tuning in to your own signals of agency and authenticity.

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Talking about sex can feel taboo, but Dr. Juliana makes it curious, light, and doable. This episode is an invitation to stop performing, start listening, and discover that your body already knows more than you think.

Let us know in the comments how this practice goes :)

Thanks for practicing with us,

🧘🏽‍♀️ Tasha & Jeff 🧘🏼‍♂️

Dr Juliana’s Links

* The Nine Pillars: dr-juliana.com/holistic-sexuality/

* Revealed Course: therevealedlife.com

* Book: A New Position on Sex

* Personal Website: dr-juliana.com

What’s the biggest mistake you’ve made as a creative? Chelene Knight answers without hesitation: “I think the biggest mistake was just not being me.”

This week, we sit down with acclaimed poet, novelist, memoirist, and Tasha’s own writing mentor, Chelene Knight, to talk about what it means to build a creative life. Not the tidy, “professionalized” version, but the messy, alive, human one that actually feels good.

Chelene’s most recent book, Safekeeping: A Writer's Guided Journal for Launching a Book with Love, is part guided journal, part treasure map through the writing life. It also, as she puts it, “contains all of my mistakes as a writer and all the things that I’ve learned.” Listening to her is like being handed a permission slip to go slower, trust yourself, reread the same book forever, throw out the pressure to finish, snack on a single poem and call it a meal.

We talk about:

* Why “there is no reading, only rereading”

* The mistake of ignoring your instincts and how to recover.

* Poetry as the foundation for all writing.

* What happens when writers trust the reader enough to leave space.

* How slowing down turns reading into a kind of prayer.

The adventure

Chelene guides us through two delicious reading practices: one with Julia Bouwsma’s Dear Ghosts, I Pick the List, and another from Patricia Smith’s Blood Dazzler. They’re haunting and beautiful.

The exercise is simple but radical: Hear a poem once, notice the phrase that hooks you, then hear it again. The second time through, the text has changed… and so have you.

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What stayed with us most from this practice is how a poem can feel like a hurricane one moment and a whisper the next, depending on how you let it in.

Reading, in Chelene’s hands, is more than consumption. It’s a meditation, a prayer, a slow fire that lights us from within.

Let us know in the comments how this practice goes :)

Thanks for practicing with us,

🧘🏽‍♀️ Tasha & Jeff 🧘🏼‍♂️

Chelene’s Links:

* The Say No with Love Letters

* Safekeeping: A Writer's Guided Journal for Launching a Book with Love

* Cheleneknight.com

This is an exciting one, friends!

Stephen Porges is the visionary scientist who gave us polyvagal theory—a framework that’s reshaped how the world understands trauma, safety, and human connection. His work has influenced everyone from therapists to meditation teachers to parents trying to soothe a colicky baby. And now he’s here with us, alongside his brilliant co-author Karen Onderko, to talk about their new book and the Safe and Sound Protocol.

This episode is part science, part storytelling, and part live experiment.

In this conversation, we talk about:

* The origins of polyvagal theory and why it changed the trauma world forever

* How the Safe and Sound Protocol helps bodies shift out of defense and into connection

* Wild stories of teens, adults, and even toddlers in a sound cube discovering safety for the first time

* Why “safety” can sometimes feel scary (and what to do about it)

* The nervous system’s three favorite things: context, choice, and connection

And then, because we’re all about real-time practice over here, Jeff guides Stephen and Karen in a short meditation. Afterwards, Stephen deconstructs it through a polyvagal lens, showing us how context, choice, and connection are the nervous system’s love language.

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This is one of those conversations we’ll be talking about for a long time. It’s science, but it’s also about how to be human together. How to tune our bodies toward safety and open the doors to connection.

✨ Know someone who’s been geeking out on the nervous system, or just trying to figure out how to feel safe in their own skin? Share this episode with them!

Thanks for practicing with us,

🧘🏽‍♀️ Tasha & Jeff 🧘🏼‍♂️

Links

* Stephen Porges

* Karen Onderko @ The Polyvagal Institute

* Book: Safe and Sound: A Polyvagal Approach for Connection, Change, and Healing