In this episode, we explore shared regulation — what it is, why it matters, and how to use simple, practical tools to support your child during big emotions while staying grounded yourself.

You’ll learn how your nervous system shapes your child’s experience, what co-regulation looks like in real life, and how to move from control-based reactions into connection-based responses.

For parents who want to lead with calm, presence, and compassion — even on hard days.

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We throw the word disrespect around a lot, but what does it actually mean? In this episode, we slow things down and take a closer look at what respect truly is, whether it can be demanded or only earned, and how our own nervous system, childhood experiences, and expectations shape the way we perceive it.

We explore:

• What we often label as “disrespect” (in kids, partners, and even ourselves)
• The difference between behavior, boundaries, and meaning-making
• How respect is built through connection, safety, and modeling
• Practical ways to give respect first—without abandoning yourself

This conversation is an invitation to soften, reflect, and reframe—so we can show up with more clarity and compassion in our relationships.

Mellow Moments:
Gentle pauses, grounding reflections, and simple practices for real-time nervous system support.

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“Oh, just wait until they’re teenagers then come talk to me...”

If I had a dollar for every time, ... well I'd only have like 20 dollars, but you get what I'm saying.

This is a super common fear-based response or really, defense, to conscious child-rearing. I'm here to lovingly counter that this philosophy is precisely what we need in preparation for the teen years with our growing children, and in this conversation, I’m joined by Kirsten Cobabe to talk honestly it. To peel back the layers on the warning of “good luck once you have teens” to find it is not only unhelpful, but deeply inaccurate.

We'll discuss how conscious parenting doesn’t fall apart as children grow, but instead becomes the foundation for trust, emotional safety, communication, and lasting connection during the next wave of formative growth in our children's lives. (And ours if we let it be that.) When we parent with awareness, regulation, and respect early on, we aren’t setting ourselves up for disconnection later. We’re building a relationship our future teens will need more than ever.

This episode is for parents who want to:

• Release fear-based narratives around adolescence
• Understand how conscious parenting supports teens’ need for autonomy and connection
• Feel reassured that the work they’re doing now truly matters long-term
• Envision teenage years rooted in trust, honesty, and mutual respect

Connect with Kirsten Cobabe
Website: https://www.kirstencobabe.com/
Instagram: @kirstencobabe

Mellow Mama Resources
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The Parenting + Re-parenting Course
Mellow Moments

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Continuing our mini book club series for Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Chapter 3, Observation without Evaluation is so powerful & a practice to start for more peaceful days as a person and parent.

My Course:
https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training

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Books to Read:
Punished by Rewards, Alfie Kohn
Unconditional Parenting, Alfie Kohn
Teaching Johnny to Think, Leonard Peikoff

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What roles have we cultivated for ourselves to prove our lovability and value to the people and world around us? How does identifying with these roles impact us and our children?

In this episode we are breaking down allllll the roles and the reason for them as well as the alternative that is truly going to give us what we want: Real authentic connection and a deep sense of recognition.

Here's my course:
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The book discussed here:
A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle

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In this episode I uncover the root issue of almost all uncomfortable circumstances, interactions with our children, with our loved ones, and within ourselves... Self-esteem and our "scale" of lovability that was cultivated for us by our parents and their parents and so on.

Let's break down the real definition of self-esteem and how each and every person is deserving of this feeling of worthiness, of value, of lovability along with how to unravel the subconscious need in many of us to seek outward evidence of that within ourselves and prevent our children from ever needing to do the same.

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In this episode we'll go over a simple mindset shift that will dramatically improve your relationship with your children, help you become a more conscious, present individual, and honestly... just enjoy being a parent so much more.

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Chappell Roan commented that parents are “in hell” a while back, and whie the internet reacted—some offended, some defensive, and some a little more objective, I thought I'd make an episode about my perspective!

If you’ve ever felt trapped, resentful, or quietly unhappy while loving your kids beyond measure, this conversation will help you understand why—and potentially what to adjust.

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