If you’ve tried to “work on yourself” as a husband, to transform from weak to confident, and it still hasn’t stuck… and your wife still doesn't desire you...this one’s for you.

You build new habits for a week or two, white-knuckle your way through being “more patient,” “more spiritual,” “more romantic”… and then your wife’s look tells you the truth: nothing really changed. The shame hits. You try harder. It fails again.
That cycle is PAINFUL— and it is not how the Kingdom works.

In this episode I’m unpacking why self-improvement keeps Christian men stuck and how the Holy Spirit actually transforms you from the inside out — from “weak, ashamed, spinning your wheels” into a man who walks in quiet confidence, masculine presence, and supernatural power. Not a man obsessed with avoiding sin… a Word-made man who embodies the promises of God.

In this episode we cover:

Why the version of faith you inherited feels disappointing and powerless
The brutal problem with “Christian change methods” (just pray, read, avoid sin…)
The difference between behavior modification and identity overhaul
How shame slowly poisons your transformation attempts
What it means to become a “word made man” instead of a rule-keeper
How the Holy Spirit convicts you into hope, not condemnation
The simple Kingdom way to renew your mind and tap real dynamite power
How this inner transformation turns you into a confident, attractive husband

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This is the best place to start if your marriage feels cold, distant, or passionless.

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If you’re ready to move fast — identity, confidence, communication, attraction, even hearing God and seeing miracles in your everyday life:

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This is only for men who are ready and able to make a significant investment. If that’s not you yet, focus on the book, the tactical guide, and the free training above.

Too many Christian husbands have been discipled into hovering puppy dogs instead of dangerous, mission-driven men of God. We’ve been told “love your wife, be nice, serve more, be patient”… but nobody showed us EXACTLY how Adam lost his wife’s respect or how Song of Solomon shows a wife who can’t keep her hands off her man.

In this episode, we go deep into Genesis 2–3 and Song of Solomon to expose how Adam laid down his mission, orbitted his wife like a desperate puppy, and opened the door to the serpent. Then we contrast that with a king on mission whose bride says, “Draw me after you—let us run.” If you’ve felt like a different man at work than you are at home… if your wife feels cold, critical, or distant… this is going to punch you in the chest in the best way.

We’ll talk about how to stop obsessively hovering around your wife, reclaim your God-given mission, rebuild her respect, and invite her back into your chambers as a confident, grounded, masculine husband. Not by getting louder or harsher—but by becoming a man who is validated by God, rooted in identity, and willing to set boundaries and lead.

🔥 If you’re done being the hovering puppy dog husband and you want help becoming the man your wife is actually wired to desire…

– Grab my book “The DNA of a Man” and its Tactical Guide
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– Watch the free training on how to stop being a Hovering Puppy Dog Husband below:
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– And if your marriage is really on the ropes, apply to work with me so we can go after this together.
-- https://tidycal.com/manwarriorking/free-rebuild-coaching-call

You don’t have to stay stuck in a cold, resentful, sexless marriage. Heaven calls you more than a conqueror. Start acting like it.

Chapters

00:00 The Foundation of Marital Bliss
05:17 Identifying the Hovering Puppy Dog Husband
17:57 Restoring Respect and Attraction
25:19 Taking Action for a Thriving Marriage

In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock explores how the desire to please God can accidentally lead to passivity in marriage. He emphasizes the importance of taking action and partnering with God rather than constantly waiting FOR God. Through biblical examples, particularly the story of Jonathan, Matt encourages men to take initiative in their marriages and lives. He also discusses practical steps for change and highlights resources available for men seeking transformation.

Takeaways

Your desire to please God can lead to inaction.
Passivity in marriage can lead to deterioration.
Women are attracted to men who take action.
God desires partnership with us in our actions.
Moses was rebuked for inaction; God wants us to move forward.
Jonathan took initiative without direct revelation from God.
Taking action can initiate God's miraculous work.
You have a green light to act until told otherwise.
Transformation can feel effortless with the right mindset.
Resources like the Masculine Husband program can facilitate change.

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Join The Masculine Husband 3-month Marriage Intensive here: https://thrive.manwarriorking.com/masculinehusband

Subscribe to Matt and Man Warrior King on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/@manwarriorking/

Chapters

00:00 The Desire to Please God: A Double-Edged Sword
07:25 Partnership with God: Action vs. Inaction
12:56 Taking Initiative: The Story of Jonathan
18:50 Practical Steps for Marital Improvement
25:07 Transformative Change: The Masculine Husband Program
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