The Light Hit Just Right – Episode 3
There’s a paradox most men have been taught to ignore: weakness is the opposite of strength. We’ve been raised to perform toughness, to keep our guard up, and to swallow our pain. But what if the real strength isn’t in the performance, but in the admission that we can’t carry it all on our own?

In this episode of The Light Hit Just Right, I sit with that tension. I reflect on storms—the ones outside our window and the ones inside our chest—and how peace is not something we protect, but something that protects us. I talk about the ways men are conditioned to mask hurt, to turn pain into anger, to live in “performance mode” until it breaks us.

But here’s the truth: there is strength in weakness. There is power in admitting you’re a beginner, in recognizing when life is bigger than you, and in asking for help. That moment—the lump in your throat, the knot in your stomach—can be the very doorway into growth, healing, and deeper connection.

We explore what vulnerability really looks like in relationships: not anger, not finger-pointing, but the courage to let someone into your heart and show them what’s really there. I share why faith has been my anchor, how surrender to God reframes weakness into strength, and why therapy or trusted community can become lifelines if we’re willing to show up honestly.

This episode is an invitation to stop performing and start living. To find the courage to admit: I need help. Because in that admission lies the strength that changes everything.

• (00:00:00) - The Light Hit Just Right
• (00:00:46) - What You Love About A Storm
• (00:04:39) - The Battle of Being a Man
• (00:11:21) - How To Be Weak in Your Life
• (00:18:34) - Ask for Help
• (00:27:44) - How To Be Vulnerable In Your Love Life
• (00:33:42) - The Strength and Weakness of Real Women
• (00:42:23) - How to Get Out of the Dark

The Light Hit Just Right – Episode 2

When you hear the phrase “man of the house,” what rises up in you—pride, fear, confusion? For so many of us, that role has carried a narrow definition: toughness, aggression, never letting your guard down. But what if that picture is incomplete? What if being a man also requires tenderness?

In this episode of The Light Hit Just Right, I reflect on the ways men—especially Gen X men—were taught to cut off softness in order to survive. We were expected to be strong in the streets and carried that same edge into our homes. The result? Strained relationships with our wives, girlfriends, daughters, and mothers. We learned to fight, but not to sit with pain. We were told to push through, but never shown how to grieve.

Growing up in a single-parent household or in communities where fathers were absent made it even harder. Too many boys were forced into manhood before they were ready, trading tenderness for toughness just to get by. And yet, the absence of tenderness leaves a hole that no amount of swagger or strength can fill.

What I believe now is this: tenderness is not weakness. Compassion isn’t feminine. Love isn’t optional. They are essentials of manhood. To heal ourselves and guide the next generation, we have to practice kindness toward ourselves first, then learn to show up for our brothers, our families, and our communities in love.

This episode is an invitation to reframe masculinity—not as aggression without end, but as courage balanced with compassion. Because at the end of the day, the measure of a man isn’t how hard he stands—it’s how fully he loves.

• (00:00:00) - Just Right
• (00:00:19) - Don't Lose Yourself While Working Your Corporate Job
• (00:03:21) - The Real Man Of The House
• (00:09:32) - Black Men Need To Be Tougher
• (00:18:06) - How Men Get Through Grief
• (00:24:50) - Do Men Need To Be More Tender?
• (00:32:00) - Men need community
• (00:37:20) - Men need to Stop Being Reactive

The Light Hit Just Right – Episode 1

Welcome to the very first episode of The Light Hit Just Right. I’m Brian Jennings, and I’m stepping behind the mic to talk about something that’s been pulling at me for a long time: identity.

We live in a world that constantly tells us who we are supposed to be. Job titles, social roles, and possessions often get mistaken for identity. But when all of that gets stripped away, who are you really? What lives in the quiet of your heart when no one else is around?

In this episode, I share my own journey with identity—the ways I’ve worn different labels as a musician, a soldier, a technologist, and now as a life coach. I talk about how easy it is to trade away pieces of ourselves just to fit into the roles we’re expected to play, and how dangerous it can be when our public persona drifts too far from our private truth.

Through personal stories—from the music industry, corporate life, and even family conversations—I explore the tension between who we are inside and who the world expects us to be. I also reflect on how identity shifts when we stop trying to be the “main character” and instead embrace our purpose as supporting cast—walking in alignment with something greater than ourselves.

This episode is an invitation:

• To notice the overlap between your private and public self.

• To lean into the parts of you that already feel authentic.

• To let go of the pressure of archetypes and external labels.

Because when your private identity and public identity finally align, peace begins to take root. And that, to me, is the truest expression of worth—your value isn’t in what you do or what you own. It’s in the fact that every hair on your head is already numbered.

Listen in, reflect, and maybe take a step closer to the freedom of living as your whole self.

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• (00:00:00) - A Voice for Vulnerable People
• (00:01:29) - The First Episode of The Life of Identity
• (00:03:59) - Is Your Identity Important to You?
• (00:06:11) - Artytypes in Film and TV
• (00:07:33) - Identities of the Job Title
• (00:13:32) - How to Get Out Of An Accident
• (00:21:00) - The old age of a Systems Engineer
• (00:26:31) - Roger and Peter: The Identity Crisis
• (00:28:02) - Jay-Z on The Music Industry
• (00:34:14) - Tom Petty: I Had Identity
• (00:39:31) - She's Not the Main Character
• (00:44:47) - Just Be Yourself