Back by popular demand, my Biz Dom, Brenda joins me in this episode to talk about what the past year has actually looked like for me. We get into what it means to rebuild your life more than once, and what it’s like being in a 24/7 Dom sub dynamic that feels aligned and expansive while still navigating very real emotions like grief, uncertainty, and starting over. Brenda came prepared with questions that pushed me to slow down, reflect, and actually look at what this season of my life is asking from me.

We also get into business, censorship, and what it looks like to be a sex educator online right now when platforms are actively shutting down conversations around safety, pleasure, and education. We talk about the importance of community, why long-form platforms matter more than ever, and how to stay connected in a space that is constantly shifting. If you’ve been going through a big life transition, questioning your path, or just trying to figure out how to hold both excitement and discomfort at the same time, this episode is going to feel very real, very human, and maybe a little bit like the permission slip you didn’t know you needed.

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Episode Highlights:

(00:00) Long Distance, Big Decisions, and Moving for Love

(08:30) Rebuilding Life in a New City and Starting Over Again

(13:10) Finding Small Joys While Navigating Major Life Changes

(16:01) Travel, Independence, and Relationship Expectations

(27:07) Sex Education, Censorship, and Why Platforms Are Failing Creators

Let’s be honest, most people hear “throuple” and immediately assume chaos, jealousy, or some kind of messy situation waiting to happen.

In this episode, I’m joined by Carnivale Risque, a real-life throuple made up of Tank, Ellez, and Obsidian, who are out here living, loving, and building a life together in a way most people only speculate about. We talk about what non-monogamy actually looks like behind the scenes, not the fantasy, not the internet version, but the real dynamics of communication, boundaries, and sharing a life with more than one partner. They break down how their relationship formed, how they navigate being a closed triad romantically while still playing and sharing energy in kink spaces, and what it really takes to make this kind of relationship work long term.

We also get into the stuff people are really curious about but are too scared to ask. Sleeping arrangements, jealousy, conflict, finances, and yes, how three people actually function as a unit without everything falling apart. We talk about emotional maturity, ego checks, and why non-monogamy does not work without radical honesty and self-awareness. If you’ve ever been curious about non-monogamy, questioned the “one person forever” script, or just want a real, human look at what this dynamic can look like when it’s done with care, this episode is going to expand your perspective in the best way.

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Episode Highlights

00:00 Poly and closed triad

23:27 Sex intimacy and kink

26:35 Vulnerability And Intimacy

27:16 Beyond The Fantasy

35:36 Switching Shame And Ego

38:06 Authenticity In The Industry

43:57 Titles And Real Experience

What if the “perfect Dom” isn’t dark, scary, and mean… but sarcastic, grounded, and deeply present?

In this episode, I’m joined by Mistress Tash Mia, a professional dominatrix and educator who brings humor, sarcasm, and real-world groundedness into her dominance. We talk about what authentic Dom energy looks like, why safety is the foundation of surrender, and how to start exploring desires without feeling like you need to go “extreme” to be valid.

We also get into the behind-the-scenes reality of being a professional space holder, including what it takes to prevent Dom burnout, how to set energetic boundaries, and why presence is one of the rarest (and hottest) skills in BDSM. If you’re dominatrix-curious, already exploring, or trying to navigate power dynamics with a partner, you’re going to feel seen in this one. Press play, take what you need, and let this conversation expand your idea of what a dominatrix really does.

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Episode Highlights:

00:00 Normalizing kink: shame, secrecy, and why desire is more common than we think

03:10 Where to start in kink: identify desires + set an intention

04:00 Safety first: competence, boundaries, and protecting someone’s values

12:00 What makes a “good sub”: communication, consent, and intention

21:00 Training Doms: tools are easy, psychology is the real work

25:00 Dating while kinky: bring it up early, and don’t abandon what matters to you