Two cataclysmic events have shaped Dr Lucy Hone’s relationship with grief, and resilience.

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Today in the Academy of Imperfection, we welcome Dr Lucy Hone. Dr Lucy’s work focuses on making sense of the senseless, and helping others to do the same.

As a legitimate expert in grief, resilience and wellbeing, Dr Lucy is able to blend the science with her own lived experience.

This episode explores living losses (divorce, estrangement, infertility), grief comparison, as well as the research around post-traumatic growth. Guided by questions from Dr Lucy’s latest book, How will I ever get through this?, Hugh, Josh and Ryan ask Dr Lucy why grief feels so lonely, how you are supposed to accept loss, and will you ever be happy again, amongst others.

This is a special one.

0:00 – An Unsuspecting Saturday Morning
12:11 – Grief comparison
21:25 – How am I supposed to accept this?
31:14 – How do you keep hope alive?
35:48 – Why do I feel so lonely?
50:20 – Will I ever be happy again?
56:36 – Letting the other children live
1:03:44 – Do you know your strengths?
1:09:12 – Who and what do you want to live for?
1:14:59 – Who and what is good in your world?

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🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/3ZPVNmO
• Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/3Oku8b4
• Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals - https://bit.ly/4rAK3AF

📖 Things to read

• How Will I Ever Get Through This by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4bAWO9w
• Resilient Grieving by Dr Lucy Hone - https://bit.ly/4kpkf8g
• Oscillation Grief Theory - https://bit.ly/4qZ5WK1
• Michael F. Steger - Meaning and Purpose Work - https://michaelfsteger.com
• J. William Worden - Four Tasks of Mourning - https://bit.ly/3NTGPcU

💻Things to check out

• Dr Lucy’s website - https://www.drlucyhone.com
• 3 Secrets of Resilient People TedTalk - https://bit.ly/3Zguj9S
• Dr Lucy’s ‘Look Forward To’ Calendar
• VIA Strengths test - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ
• Coping With Loss community on Facebook - https://bit.ly/3NTnDvT
• Welcome to Holland poem - https://bit.ly/4kgB0lH
• Will Arnett + Conan O’Brien on Grief - https://bit.ly/4a06320

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Stop. Everything. Now. It’s Claudia Karvan day.

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An icon of the screen, and of the heart, Claudia is Australian entertainment royalty.

Claudia’s life itself feels like a movie (no one else grew up in a nightclub, did they?) and it was an absolute privilege to listen to all the lessons that she has learnt along the way.

With incredible grace, Claudia talks to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about playing the long game during divorce, and how she came to the realisation that it wasn’t up to her to fix everything.

Claudia speaks openly about separating the person from the diagnosis, and how, and why, she thinks so often about death.

This is one for the highlight reel.

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Stephen Curry - I Dug a Hole … and Found Myself - https://bit.ly/3ZpPNkN
• Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken - https://bit.ly/3M8SC6y

📺 Things to watch

• Love My Way - https://bit.ly/4qFCjNA
• The Secret Life of Us - https://bit.ly/3Z1Thtt
• The Queen of Versailles - https://bit.ly/3Z5FemE
• Australian Story - The Secret Life of Claudia Karvan - https://bit.ly/3ZE8p0g
• Who Do You Think You Are? with Claudia Karvan - https://bit.ly/4bIw3QL
• Bump - https://bit.ly/49O16Jv

📖 Things to read

• The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche - https://bit.ly/4k8qdtR

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Ryan’s got news.

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Well, past-Ryan had news, and now future-Ryan is going to reflect on how present-day-Ryan is currently feeling about said news. Get it? It’s reflecting on a reflection about a rejection.

Today we’re giving you two for the price of none, and bringing you two of the most memorable moments from our subscriber based show A Little More Imperfects.

With both segments focusing on wildest dreams, Hugh, Ryan and Josh explore how to navigate regret when you’re not at your best, and how to show yourself compassion and love when your dreams are, well, crushed.

Also, we ask Hugh what happened to him today.

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://bit.ly/457hYZA
• Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://bit.ly/454PJL6
• Isaac Humphries - Coming Out on Court - https://bit.ly/4jQtxtD

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