• 7. How to Set Boundaries with a Toxic Ex That Actually Work
    Jul 15 2025

    Struggling to set boundaries or hold them when she pushes back?

    In this episode, you’ll learn how to create boundaries that actually work with the high conflict ex, and how to follow through, even if she escalates, badmouths you, or tries to guilt-trip you into giving in.

    This is your practical, compassionate guide to taking your power back, protecting your peace, your relationship and your emotional health.

    👉 Episode Show Notes (including my 10 boundary tip recap): https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/podcast/boundaries-with-a-toxic-ex

    Timestamps

    01:46 - When it's Time to Stop Trying to Cooperate and Set a Boundary

    02:13 - Why Boundaries Are Non-Negotiable with High Conflict People

    03:29 - What an Effective Boundary Looks Like

    05:06 - What happens When You Set Effective Boundaries

    06:00 - Why You Don’t Need Your Partner On Board

    06:56 - How to Set and Communicate Boundaries Clearly

    08:47 - Boundary Backlash Is Real - How to Handle It

    11:27 - Managing Guilt and Fear

    13:03 - How Boundaries Set You Free

    13:51 - Recap (My 10 Boundary Tips)


    Just a heads-up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is based on my training, research and experience. It is not professional mental health advice.

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  • 6. Why Everyone Believes Her Stories - And What To Do About It
    Jul 8 2025

    What do you do when everyone else believes her twisted stories – and you’re left looking like the problem?

    In this episode, you’ll learn why high conflict people are so persuasive, even to professionals like therapists, teachers, and court officials.

    We’ll explore why people fall for her version of events, why it feels like no one sees what you’re going through, and what to do when you feel erased, blamed, or misunderstood.

    You’ll walk away with clear strategies to protect your credibility, respond to misinformation, and stay grounded in your truth – even when no one else sees it yet.

    👉 Episode Show Notes: https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/podcast/toxic-stories



    Just a heads-up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is based on my training, research and experience. It is not professional mental health advice.

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    11 m
  • 5. Tired of Feeling Blindsided? How to Predict Her Next Move and Stay One Step Ahead
    Jul 1 2025

    Blindsided again by your partner’s ex?

    What if I told you her chaos isn’t random — but actually follows patterns you can learn to spot and prepare for.

    In this episode, we dive into the emotional logic behind high conflict behaviour and reveal the hidden patterns that make her actions more predictable than you think.

    You’ll learn how to recognise common patterns like the “Pre-Event Blow-Up” and “Connection Disruptor,” that explain seemingly random behaviour.

    Discover how to spot these patterns early, anticipate her moves, and prepare strategically without getting emotionally hijacked.

    👉 Grab the Drama Tracker here: https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/drama-tracker

    👉 Episode Show Notes: https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/podcast/pattern-behind-chaos



    Just a heads-up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is based on my training, research and experience. It is not professional mental health advice.

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    12 m
  • 4. How to Respond to Her Toxic Messages
    Jun 24 2025

    Today, I'm breaking down a five-step plan that helps you respond to toxic messages without getting emotionally hooked.

    This episode is for anyone tired of overthinking every word, trying to defend themselves, or feeling drained after every interaction with a high conflict ex. I'll show you how to stay calm, and in control, no matter how chaotic the message.

    👉 FREE GUIDE DOWNLOAD - You don’t need to get stuck in conversations that always seem to escalate. Stay calm (no matter what she sends) with my 5-step communication plan + 10 copy-paste replies. https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/podcast-free-guide. Plus you’ll get access to my private Q&A podcast.

    👉 Episode Show Notes: https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/podcast/respond-to-toxic-messages



    Just a heads-up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is based on my training, research and experience. It is not professional mental health advice.

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    11 m
  • 3. The 5 Biggest Mistakes You're Making When Communicating With the High Conflict Ex – and How to Avoid Them
    Jun 17 2025

    Ever spent hours crafting the perfect response to your partner's high conflict ex, only to have it blow up in your face?

    In this episode, I reveal the five biggest communication mistakes you’re making that keep you trapped in the conflict cycle.

    You'll discover why your well-intentioned approaches backfire and set you up for endless drama.

    By the end, you’ll be able to stop exhausting yourself with strategies that never work, and instead find new ways that do.

    👉 FREE GUIDE DOWNLOAD - You don’t need to get stuck in conversations that always seem to escalate. Stay calm (no matter what she sends) with my 5-step communication plan + 10 copy-paste replies. https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/handle-the-ex-free-guide

    👉 Episode Show Notes: https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/podcast/biggest-communication-mistakes



    Just a heads-up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is based on my training, research and experience. It is not professional mental health advice.

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    11 m
  • 2. Why Her Drama Feels Personal – And Why It’s Not
    Jun 10 2025

    That text from your partner's ex can ruin your entire day. But what if you could change that?

    In this episode, I unpack why high conflict behaviour feels so personal, and share a simple mindset shift to turn it around.

    I’ll break down how high conflict people distort reality and why their reactions have nothing to do with you.

    You’ll learn how to stop internalising her behaviour and to create distance from her drama, without ignoring real issues.

    If you’re constantly questioning yourself after another outrageous accusation or feeling like the villain in her latest story, this episode is for you.

    👉 Episode Show Notes: https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/podcast/why-her-drama-feels-personal



    Just a heads-up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is based on my training, research and experience. It is not professional mental health advice.

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    9 m
  • 1. Why Does She Act Like This? The High Conflict Ex Explained
    Jun 3 2025

    “Why can’t she just be normal?”

    We’ve all asked that question – and today, I’m going to answer it.

    I’ll walk you through what’s really behind the high conflict ex's chaotic behaviour, and why it’s not as random as it seems. There’s a pattern. And once you start to see it, things begin to make a lot more sense.

    If you’re exhausted from trying to fix the unfixable, this might be the shift you’ve been needing.

    👉 Episode Show Notes: https://www.highconflictblueprint.com/podcast/the-high-conflict-ex-explained



    Just a heads-up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is based on my training, research and experience. It is not professional mental health advice.

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    10 m
  • Welcome to The High Conflict Blueprint
    Jun 1 2025

    The show for stepmums (and stepmoms) who are done with the drama and manipulation of a high conflict ex. Hosted by a stepmum and certified coach who’s lived it.

    In this episode, I'll explain why “normal” advice makes things worse with a high conflict ex, and why you need a totally different approach.

    I'll show you a way through the drama that works. And over time, you'll find that you'll feel better, communicate better, set better boundaries, and be more in control of your life.

    Each weekly episode gives you practical, actionable tools you can implement today.


    Just a heads-up: I’m a certified coach. Everything I share is based on my training, research and experience. It is not professional mental health advice.

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