In this episode, I dive deep into the world of emotional pursuers—something I know all too well from personal experience. I'll share my story of how years of tiny rejections and a relentless drive for validation shaped my adult relationships, leading to constant anxiety and a desperate need for connection. We'll explore how these anxiously attached styles develop and the exhausting cycle they create. But don't worry, it's not all doom and gloom! I'll tell you how I began to heal by leaning into my faith and re-identifying myself through God's eyes, rather than seeking my husband's validation. This episode is all about finding strength in your identity and embracing grace in your relationships. I hope my journey can offer you some guidance and hope if you're facing similar challenges. So, if you're an emotional pursuer longing for connection but often finding yourself in a cycle of blame and resentment, you're in the right place. Let's work on becoming the grace-fueled wives we aspire to be, together.

00:00 Introduction: The Weight of Tiny Rejections

01:03 Understanding Emotional Pursuers

01:48 A Personal Story of Perfectionism

04:00 The Impact of Inconsistent Caregivers

04:40 The Exhausting Cycle of Pursuers

08:12 Finding Strength in Faith

09:42 A Path to Healing and Connection

10:22 Conclusion and Support

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In this episode I continue the discussion from last week about negative communication cycles, focusing specifically on emotional withdrawers. I'll share a personal story and explore why some people withdraw emotionally in relationships. We delve into how childhood experiences and societal expectations shape this behavior. I highlight the struggles that withdrawers face, such as feeling unsafe expressing emotions and the pressure of perceived failure. By understanding their experiences, we aim to foster empathy, and improve communication. Join me to learn more about how to offer grace and nurture a healthier relationship.

03:06 Understanding Withdrawers

04:07 The Impact of Upbringing on Withdrawers

05:07 Withdrawers in Professional Life

06:51 The Emotional Struggles of Withdrawers

10:40 Empathy for Withdrawers

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In this episode, we dive into the root causes of disconnection in marriages focusing on unmet emotional needs and negative communication cycles. I share a personal story showcasing how recognizing these cycles and responding differently can transform interactions. Using a practical exercise, I explain the mechanics of negative communication and how it perpetuates disconnection. Tune in to understand how you can stop these cycles and start feeling connected again. Don't forget to check out the free video training and our community resources - If you’re already on my insider list, I’ve included it with this week’s email.

00:23 Understanding Communication Issues in Relationships

01:19 Personal Story: Handling a Partner's Mood

04:09 The Negative Communication Cycle Explained

04:38 Visualizing the Communication Cycle

13:14 Impact of Negative Cycles on Emotional Needs

14:29 Conclusion and Resources

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