The 'Good Girl' Trap: Understanding the Fawn Response in Life + Birth Work

How many times this month have you said "Yes" when your entire body was screaming "No"?

In birth work (and for many women), we are conditioned to be 'team players'. We smile when we are angry. We undercharge. We soothe a client's guilt when they cancel at the last minute. We reply to texts outside of office hours so we don't seem 'rigid'.

But in nervous system terms, this isn't just 'being nice.' It is a survival response called Fawning.

In this episode, Sarah explores the sneaky, everyday ways we abandon our own boundaries to make others comfortable, and how chronic fawning leads to the most corrosive symptom of burnout: Resentment.

In this episode, we cover:

• The 4th Survival Response: What is "Fawning" and why is it such a brilliant (but costly) survival strategy in birth work?

• The "Micro-Fawns": The quiet, everyday ways we shrink ourselves to keep the peace.

• Fawn vs. Compassion: How to tell if you are helping from a grounded choice or a fear-based compulsion (and addressing the fear that boundaries will hurt your business).

• The Somatic Cost: How unexpressed "No's" show up as jaw tension, migraines, and 3 AM anxiety.

• The Tool: The "Grounding Anchor" practice to help you find your footing—and your gut intuition—before you answer a request.

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