The Friendship & Attachment Grapple with Spencer Owen

In this conversation, Adi Tilford and Spencer Owen discuss unexpected friendships that formed during the COVID-19 pandemic and the challenges of making and maintaining friendships. They explore the idea of reconstructing religion for those who have experienced spiritual trauma and the need for trauma-informed theology. They discuss the division and polarization in society and the role of the church in promoting love and unity. They also touch on the importance of setting realistic expectations in friendships and the need for inner work and attachment healing. The conversation explores the importance of secure attachment and feedback loops in building healthy relationships. It emphasizes the need for individuals to feel safe within themselves and with God in order to form secure attachments with others. The discussion also highlights the idea that God not only loves us but also likes us, and that building a secure sense of self starts with our relationship with God. The conversation concludes with a reflection on the importance of play and rest in our lives.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and COVID-19 Friendship Stories

07:48 The Challenges of Division and Animosity

14:00 Grapples with Friendship and Loneliness

21:27 The Biblical Perspective on Friendship and Acceptance

26:37 Attachment Styles and Realistic Expectations

29:15 The Importance of Inner Work and Therapy

35:22 Building Secure Attachments and Feeling Safe

45:45 Understanding God's Love and Liking for Us

56:28 The Transformative Power of Felt Safety

01:06:12 Play as a Spiritual Practice and Joining God in His Work

01:09:24 Introduction and Podcast Announcement

01:11:04 Reconstructing Religion for the Hurting

01:11:33 A Trauma-Informed Perspective on the Bible

01:12:01 Ending Each Episode with Clarity and Understanding

Keywords: podcast, support, friendship, trauma-informed, theology, division, unity, expectations, inner work, attachment healing, secure attachment, feedback loops, safety, relationship with God, play, rest

You can connect with Spencer through his website Renewed Life Counseling and on Facebook at Renewed Life Counseling

Watch the Live Video of this Conversation on Facebook

More from Spencer:

The Promise for Atonement (re-pair): with Spencer Owen

Grapple Loudly - Wrapping up Amplify: God Sees and Hears Everyone

Grapple with Forgiveness with Spencer Owen

Grappling with Dreams and Desires and their Fulfillment with Spencer Owen

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